Anyone else have Xmas steam to let off?? What's making you rage?

[Thisnamechanger]

I cannot find my SIL present anywhere.
I'm very late leaving for DFs.
I'm cooking tonight.
My pets are furious with me.
No one else seems to want to help.

Anyone else need to let of some steam about anything?

For the last 8 years I’ve been allergic to something. An easily swappable ingredient.

1. Fucking. Years.

You’d think after 8 bloody years I wouldn’t need to actually check what’s in the assorted puddings. Or arrive with my own sadly separate little portion.

And after 8 bloody years why do I still feel like a CF and awkward and making it A Thing to check in advance? But thank the baby Jesus that I did check —again— otherwise that would be yet another family gathering spent shitting myself and vomiting alone again.

my MIL talking at me and standing in my space right when I'm doing something (I'm not a multi tasker)
Complicated questions and instructions and requests when I'm

• making the gravy and trying to finish the meal
• serving the food
• dealing with DDs bad behaviour
• cleaning up DDs vomit (shes got a heavy cold) and making sure she's all right.

Day 4 having them stay and today I snapped and said, after being told to Get DD Dressed Quickly! SHE'LL get SICK! the second I'd removed DD vomit covered shirt - Please, One Thing After Another in a rather harsh tone. Oh well.

@Dweeble, my DS has allergies so I sympathise with you being made to feel that way. My BIL was over from Australia and we were all summoned to dinner at a restaurant. Not only was it ridiculously expensive, it was a poxy fish restaurant. DS is and always has been deadly allergic to all fish. Was made to feel a bitch for saying DH and DD could go but DS and I wouldn't.
None of us went in the end and when BIL came again, this year, we weren't invited and didn't even know he came and after he had left.

My eldest ds 18 back from uni decided he wasn't coming out of his room at all to do presents or have lunch because my dw and her 2 dc were here. Even when they went to visit family he still wouldn't come and do presents with me and ds16 and I spent all day in tears over it even after I dropped him at his dads about 3.30.

He doesnt accept our situation but he had joined in games the night before so thought it was going to be ok but sadly not.

Also my family didnt get my dc anything for xmas or text to say happy christmas even though i took presents to my mums on xmas eve.

My daughter, 4, has just found some more presents for herself under my MILs tree but isn’t allowed to open them until everyone is awake and watching. I kind of get it but she’s 4 for goodness sake and presents are exciting. I personally don’t think it’s worth the massive meltdown.

No token gift from FIL for the third year in a row for DH & myself, (also ignored both our 40th birthdays) - still buys for his other grown up child & partner though! We live away and drove to visit him on Christmas morning, he seemed as if he wasn't expecting us even though we had a message from him 2 days before saying he was looking forward to seeing us (we had said we'd drop in!)
Rah!

Also, and it’s been going on for a few months now and I have no idea what I’ve done, but brother in law barely speaks to me which has made it a bit awkward. He completely ignored my birthday which is a first and now basically only speaks to me when he absolutely has to. Really odd.

Oh I wish I had found this thread on Christmas Eve. DH hadn’t bought a thing so went to town to buy my presents- the only person he needed to buy for as I had already bought for his family, my family, the DC, neighbours, friends, colleagues, his clients, his staff.... then once the kids are in bed and we should be being Santa, he then decides to wrap it all and take ages, so I had to wait for him to finish as everything was stacked in his van in heavy boxes so I needed him to help. Finally he was finished by midnight no less! He had drank too much as usual and was his usual grumpy drunk self, making stupid mistakes setting things up. Then it turned out he lost my best scissors (I know, a silly thing, but they weren’t cheap and I hate to have to pay out for them again) when he was wrapping but it’s fine as ‘theyre Only in the house’ - days later and still no sign of them... I could have killed him by the time we finally went to bed if I hadn’t been so tired!

I too regret not noticing this thread earlier.

Still cannot grasp, after many years, why a certain family member insists on buying me box after box after box of dull bath/shower products, which will go straight to a charity shop because there's only so much one person can use. I'd worry she's trying to tell me something but Dh assures me I don't have a personal hygiene problem.

The same person also buys M&S clothing but refuses to get a gift receipt, so when it has to be returned - which it inevitably does because it's always just slightly the wrong size and/or wrong colour - it's in the sale and worth about £2, although she paid full price for it.

There's zero attempt at any deeper thought in terms of what the recipient might actually like (she also bought Dh a bottle of booze despite knowing, and being freshly reminded by me, that he can't drink alcohol at all), but somehow she spends £££ and the sheer waste of money on impersonal tat gives me the rage. I know it's the thought that counts but she might as well just set fire to a handful of £20 notes. Why DO that?

She's giving you what she wants Christmasbleatings. Keep this years offerings and re wrap them and give them back next Christmas with the biggest smile you can muster. She must love this stuff so she can't complain can she?

MIL making my 2 year old DS cry by refusing to let him take his present home as it "has to stay at her house." Actually took it off him and hid it.

What a bitch, I’d go and buy him one for he’s house!