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I hate Christmas

32 replies

Tills85 · 23/12/2018 09:14

Does anyone else feels the same? When for most people Chsistmas is a happy time I struggle to get through this time of year and can't wait for it to be over. I don't have family around as tgey live far away and so it is only me and my DS, 6. Don't get me wrong I still do everything to make Christmas special & exciting for him but I have to try to pretend im enjoying it. Getting messages of have a lovely christmas, watching peoples instagram, happy families, big dinners, board games... i wake up with a huge anxiety feeling & pray for the day to be over as soon as possible. I can't watch vhristmas films, or listen to christmas songs. I have not done any food shopping yet and a thought of doing it today makes me so angry i want to cry. The hardest part is watching people in love. I know i should be happy becauae i have my DS with me and im not on my own but i am. Once he goes to bed I am. But evven when he's up there's certain things, attention, love your child can"t give you and i crave it so much. Is anyone else on tge same boat?

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StewPots · 24/12/2018 08:26

I'm not a big fan of Christmas. I used to be but years of slaving away for three days to cook and clean up then being the one who does all the present buying etc etc took its toll.

I separated from my husband this year. If you'd have looked on my Instagram OP I was having that "perfect Christmas picture". Presents, food, games.... you'd have looked at it and thought "wow she's lucky". And yes I was as not many people have much at Christmas and in that part I am truly grateful.

However, I was actually miserable. I could sense that the next year was going to bring turmoil as my husband and I weren't getting on - he wasn't interested in me, no effort to help or show he loved me... all came to a head In July without derailling your thread.

I hated last Christmas. I had to work as well Christmas morning then come home and cook for everyone. But on the face of it, I was having a Christmas most people dream of.

My point I guess is this - any form of social media is only showing you a snapshot of the day. Behind the facade there is stuff going on which you'd have no inkling of.

This year, it's me, DS and DD in the morning, then DD and I are off to work whilst DS goes to his Dads in the afternoon. And you know what? I can't wait. No cooking, no loads of people crowding in my lounge, chance to earn some good money for treats next year, feeling confident in myself which is priceless... I'm going to have a really good Christmas and I really hope you do too :)

Merry Christmas to you and your DS :) Xx

SheilaHammond · 24/12/2018 08:36

Just hopping on the thread to say hello and say I hate Christmas too. I want to sleep from now til January and want it to all go away. I have no particular reason for this which makes me feel embarrassed and ungrateful. But I’ve just always hated Christmas, even as a child.

I have anxiety and depression (well-medicated, I manage quite well normally, work full time etc). Changes in routine are real triggers for me. And the sensory overload is horrible too.

Sending you all thoughts and love...it’ll be over soon.

sashh · 24/12/2018 09:12

I've just seen this

twitter.com/i/status/1076934732779274245

might be worth looking at

StuffNnonsense4 · 24/12/2018 11:02

Sounds good to me Grin

DarlingNikita · 24/12/2018 12:56

I hear you, OP. I find Christmas hard too, albeit for different reasons.

In the very nicest way, can I suggest you try counselling or some similar treatment again? At least go and talk to a sympathetic GP (I'm hoping you have one).

And I think it sounds as though you give your son lovely Christmases, and that's a huge thing to do.

It IS ridiculous the messages of family harmony/hordes of friends etc, not to mention the consumer frenzy. Ignore it all and keep watching Netflix, I say!

Thanks Brew

sashh · 25/12/2018 05:33

Hi everyone.

Well I have had a nice start to the day. I'm taking an OU course and my latest assignment has come back with a really good score.

I wasn't expecting it because officially the OU is closed.

So I'll be doing some more maths later.

Ladymargarethall · 25/12/2018 06:16

I am a Christian and I hate Christmas.
It has nothing to do with a baby in a manger, and everything to do with commercialism.
My favourite Christmases have been the ones when we largely opted out. The year DMiL died and the funeral was 19th December, the year DF died and the funeral was straight after Christmas and the year our kitchen flooded and we had only a microwave to cook on.
This sounds miserable, but it wasn't. I experienced a feeling of peace about it that I never do if I fall for all the hype.

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