I need help finding a gift for my 'D'A who to be honest is nightmare.
Turned into a bit of a rant... TL;DR
50 y/o
Single
Doesn't drink or eat anything 'unhealthy' but not into Gym etc
Likes Giraffes/Cats
£10/15
No smellies or tat
I'm trying to buy less tat this year so I would rather not go down the Boots 3 for 2 smellies route.
She's almost definitely going to complain/strop over whatever I get her, previous Christmases she's laid down on the floor in the living room and ignored everyone after gift giving or gone to sit in the car until my DU drove them home if not at my DGPs house and if we are at DGPs she'll go upstairs and not come back down. IMO she's never been given anything bad, last year I got her a naise mug with a giraffe (she likes/collects giraffes) and previously a set of Ted Baker boxed socks. Not exciting gifts but not crap imo. Bear in mind she's never bought anything for me my DM, DF or DS.
I don't want to spend more than £10-15 and it needs to be something that I can keep/give to someone else if she doesn't actually turn up or if she completely rejects it.
I haven't really seen her at all this year and there are a lot of hard feelings from my side of the family in terms of her actions this year in particular. My DGM has been really ill this year, broken hip and COPD looking to be in the final stages. My 'D'A refused to visit my DGM in hospital unless someone drove her, refused to take any annual leave to visit her in hospital or look after her at home (she saves her AL and doesn't go on holiday so plenty to use). She's manipulative to my DGM, calls her every day to moan about her life (and blame my DF for being single, not able to ride a bike/swim/drive
) and encourages her not to eat because they would get 'bloated'.
I ordered her a mini Benefit makeup set but lookfantastic just cancelled my order because they oversold on Black Friday. So now I'm back on the hunt!
I'd rather not buy anything but I would like to avoid a mega go to car strop and minimise to a sit on the floor and ignore everyone strop for the sake of my DGM.
DM goes through phases of going NC after particularly bad episodes like being cruel about/to my sister with high functioning ASD but ends up speaking to her again after apologies through my DGM and because she has noone else.
Non-xmas examples of shit behavior:
Insisted on being a bridesmaid at DP's wedding, wore a cardigan over the dress for the ceremony and made DGPs and DU leave after the ceremony.. Yes that's correct my DFs parents did not attend the wedding reception!
Actively disinterested in me and DS when we were little including limiting contact between me and DS and DGPs and trying to get my DF to prioritise her over me and DS after my DGF died because she was blood and he didn't have to have DC!
There are more but these are the ones that piss me off the most.