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I see many posts suggesting Buying for children only, i have never done this

36 replies

GaryBaldbiscuit · 13/12/2018 08:12

its too late now
but when do you stop?
when do you decide that the children are now teenagers or older and its about time you bought for your sister?

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neveradullmoment99 · 20/12/2018 20:23

I have older children and we kind of stopped buying for them when they were about 20.

Love51 · 20/12/2018 20:25

The question was when do you stop.... This hadn't occurred to me! Luckily we had a kid and one of husband's siblings had a kid the same year, so Xmas when they turned 2 we agreed to do kids only, but the siblings without children still get bought for (they buy for each other, but in the families with kids, they only buy for the kids). My brother followed soon after, I don't buy for him and partner but I do buy for their kids (step and regular). One of the stepnieces now has a kid I've started buying for, so I should stop buying for the stepniece, but still buy for her child free siblings. But something doesn't sit right, because she is the generation BELOW husband's siblings, who I still buy for (as they have no kids -yet), and I have a feeling that money should flow down the generations!

chipsnmayo · 20/12/2018 20:27

My brothers and I have not exchanged any presents since we left home (including birthdays) about 30 odd years ago.

My mum and dad never wanted presents.

I think I gave Christmas presents to my nieces and nephews until they were about 13, by that point I barely saw them and I was a skint single parent.

itbemay · 20/12/2018 20:29

We buy for our parents and DCs only, family too big to buy for adults also

Missingstreetlife · 20/12/2018 20:30

Under 18 only, or still in full time education. They never buy one back.

EtVoilaBrexit · 20/12/2018 20:32

When do you stop? Never tbh or least not between children and parents.

H and his sister stopped when we all had dcs on the ground we would concentrate in that. The reality was that it was a chore for both of them and the presents weren’t amazing on both sides. So no point wasting money really.

QforCucumber · 20/12/2018 20:34

Its what works for you. Dp has 3 brothers, 2 of which have 2 kids - those we only buy the kids. The other who are childless we get them a gift. We buy my parents and his. Our own dc. And my brothers (who are both single and childless) when these have their own gift buying will move to the children. We do not buy for aunts uncles cousins etc.

AllYeFaithful · 20/12/2018 20:35

We did it 10 years ago when a new generation of six kids came along rapidly.

It had become silly with my family. Aunts and uncles and cousins all spending hundreds of pounds on tat, as there were loads of people to buy for.

One year I tentatively suggested we stop buying (crappy toiletries sets, socks, chocolates, kitchen equipment and all manner of yet!) fir the adults and just all spent less but more focussed on the kids. I was expecting to be shot down..,but family practically rejoiced! 😆

It’s SO much more relaxing now! I buy presents only for my DC, some small gifts for my 5young nieces/nephews/cousins kids and something small for my DH. That’s it.

Whoever hosts can expect booze, chocolates, monetary contributions etc. Otherwise, nothing,

I’d never go back!

Ragwort · 20/12/2018 20:36

We stop when children/Godchildren get to 18 (although my own Godmother still sends me a cheque every birthday & Christmas and I am 60 ). We don’t buy for siblings in general although one sibling & I exchange token gifts, chocs or biscuits. My parents like a charity gift (Christmas meal at Crisis). No ILs. Don’t buy for friends, my closest friend & I go out for a special meal. DH & I choose our own gifts. All very stress free (all children get cash gifts). Nearly forgot our DS, we do give him presents but the ‘main’ one is cash.

MrsMoastyToasty · 20/12/2018 20:43

I don't buy for the nieces and nephews. They are all adults with children of their own. I don't buy for the great neices and nephews either, as they live hundreds of miles away and we don't know what things they like. However when we do meet up (usually mid year) we take them out on a special treat and buy them what they ask for within reason.

MerryMax · 20/12/2018 20:43

Kids are so much easier to buy for and they can't get it themselves. I find buying for adults odd. I'd much rather a gift is bought because it's something someone knows I'll like and they truly thought of me not that they had to buy me something because it's December 25th. I refuse to buy for SIL/BIL and she is not happy about it but I cannot stomach adults exchanging amazon wish lists!

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