Do you still buy your siblings Christmas gifts once they have children?

[firsttimemumma123]

So myself and DH will be spending £40ish on our nephew, we used to spend this on SIL but now I'm thinking a bottle of fizz & some chocolates will do as we are spending what we would previously spend on them on their DS. Is this acceptable? Don't want it to look like we're being tight I am just assuming this is the done thing. Next Christmas our DD will have arrived so atm being w/o a child we are not sure of the "rules".

My sister and I agreed to move to presents for children and “minding” only for adults once we both had children.

We usually exchange bottles/plants/chocolates etc.

I normally just buy them all a tin of chocolates and they do the same for me

My sister buys both my kids pressies and hasn't changed her spending on me at all. I would still treat her to the same sort of gifts when she had kids. How odd!

Yes I do. I budget £20 ish per head for siblings and nieces/nephews. In our family it's definitely the thought that counts and not in the least materialistic.

If it ever gets to a point where one of us struggles financially keeping this up would probably suggest kids only and possibly a secret Santa (that doesn't have to be a secret in the end).

Nope soon as kids came along we stopped buying for each other it gets ridiculous

My sister buys both my kids pressies and hasn't changed her spending on me at all

Which is what I did when my DSis has kids and we didn’t. And was prepared to continue when my own came along.

However as families grow choosing gifts for everyone can get a bit stressful. It also sometimes feels like needless consumerism.

My DSis asked if we could drop adult presents and I was happy to agree. We exchange something small and everyone is happy.

I tell my sister that there is no need to buy me and h anything - if she wants to buy presents then buy for the children only. She insists on buying for all of us but when she asks for wish lists I send her a list of gift ideas around £5 each. I know what she earns and rough outgoings through being asked advice and that sounds more than enough to me.

I do but i only have one sister, i think if i had more siblings i might choose not to. My ex has 4 sisters and they just do the kids now.

We do token presents, but this was discussed and agreed in advance before we moved from “proper” presents to token presents.

I hate this. If you can afford to then buy her gifts. After having a baby you have even less time and money for yourself so having a gift is even more wanted.

We used to but now we do a not-so-secret Secret Santa where the adults all buy one gift for another adult and we all buy for the children. When my DBs had kids and I didn't they still bought for me. Now they buy for my children. My mother is in the Secret Santa but we still buy a separate Christmas gift for her anyway - otherwise she would be giving but never receiving. Works well for us.

I have one sister who has 3 kids and I buy for all of them.She does for mine too.

I'm an only child but my husband is the eldest of three. My SIL asked if we could all just buy for the kids so that's what we do. Two of us only have 1 child each and the other has three so we still feel like we are forking out quite a bit of money!

Tbh I think I'm going to stick to my original plan and discuss with SIL next year once we both have children. As a parent I'm pretty sure she'd be happier us spending the money on her DC rather than her anyway, she can comfortably afford to be a SAHM and has been since her DC was born (nearly 2) so it's not like she saves a list of items she NEEDS unlike a lot of people at this time of year. Small token gifts can be just as thoughtful.

Yes, we do in our family.

Why can't adults enjoy nice gifts too?

I spend the same on my DSis as I do on her DD. I do only have one sibling and one niece though, perhaps I'd struggle if I had lots of siblings.

Nice gifts don't have to be expensive. As previous posters have said, it's the thought that counts.

Yes. I think Christmas is for all ages.

I still buy for my older sister and her two boys (now almost adults themselves) but I have a budget of £10 each for nephews and up to £15 For my sister. Myself and my younger sister have more children than my older sister so just seems fair. I don't buy for my younger sister as she lives abroad and it's gets complicated. Plus as she has the same number of kids as I do we just buy for our own kids from each other save shopping things abroad and the added expense.

I wouldn't mind if I wasn't bought anything, I know money is tight all round in my family so instead this year we're doing a sort of secret Santa. So it's older sister and my mother and I. Saves money and we still all get a gift.

No. We agreed children only. I can buy myself stuff if I really want it. Christmas is about the children and anything that reduces the stress and cost is all for the good in my opinion.

I do but I'm beginning to think what's the point as they just want vouchers. My oh family did a secret santa (2 brothers, 2 sil and one sister) £100 but started to get silly as we would be asked for money and then give it in April.i spend £30 on nephew and £30 each on brother and sil.