Christmas day birthday

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DS will be 5 this year on christmas day and I'm starting to dread it a bit. Last year he was so excited beforehand but it all ended in tears and him saying he wants a different birthday. This was mainly because everyone was full by the time we got round to the birthday cake and it was an overwhelming day trying to cram both days into one. I feel rude asking people to do this but he really hates that he gets joint presents as his brother's get twice as many. Would it be rude to ask people to get him a christmas and a birthday present?

No it's not rude. My friends son was born on Christmas Day and we all check whether he wants separate presents or a 'biggie'. He's a bit Lego obsessed so has sometimes preferred to get the £50 mega star wars set or whatever that he wouldn't normally get.
She divides the day into 3 bits - Santa presents, then breakfast, birthday presents and fuss with lunch then Christmas dinner is 5-6 pm, Her DS prefers it that way, they have tried celebrating on Boxing Day but it was a bit flat as everyone knew it wasn't actually his birthday, especially him!! He has his party (fur friends) around the 27th.

Let him choose another day as his present day - tell him if the Queen can have 2 birthdays so can he!!

It’s not on people getting him joint presents that’s just awful and they are been cheap.
My best friends dd is 5 on Christmas Day too, and I have always made sure she gets two separate presents and one is wrapped in Birthday paper. I believe they celebrate her birthday on Boxing Day currently, this May change in the future. They also held a birthday party last year in early December.

I would definitely make Christmas Eve his special day....

Early birthday presents. Early cake.... and let everyone know You will be celebrating the day before so if people can let you know which gift is birthday and which is Christmas...

My friend used to celebrate her DD's birthday in the morning, then Christmas lunch and Christmas presents in the afternoon. This fell into disrepute when younger brother was old enough to know what was going on, but they still carried on!
The daughter had a "half" birthday party for her friends in June/July. Everyone understood why, and it wasn't a problem.

My friend was born Christmas eve and from around 5 he picked the 24th of September as his birthday and that was it until his early 20s.

It was definitely the best idea for him as everyone forgot his birthday and lumped presents in together (because they'd forgotten). He could have never done anything special or have a party around that time of year.

I have another born on boxing day and he was never bothered but he's Hindu and was living in India until 10 so I doubt he had the same problems as he would have here.

I hope you manage to work something out that works for him.

Not at all rude! In this situation for my friends DC I buy 2 gifts and always wrap one in birthday paper. Your friends and family are the rude ones! As a previous poster suggests explain that you are doing two celebrations and ask your friends to let you know which gift is for which occasion!

When I was growing up my friend who was born on Christmas day would get cards and a happy birthday from her parents but would have her birthday celebration on 25th June. Then she would have party, gifts etc. She still does this.

The joint present thing is not on unless your DS wants something bigger from the gift giver which would use the two budgets combined. My niece's birthday is very close to Christmas and she always gets a Christmas gift in Christmas paper and a birthday gift in birthday paper with a birthday card so the two things are done just as separately as her sister's are.