Opinions please on present for MIL

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So my MIL has done alot for us. She's done loads of decorating and diy. Also been very supportive through some tough times. So I planned to make a fabric advent calendar for her. A few years ago she bought me the parts so I could sew one for myself. DH then said now I've bought the bits to make it. Would it be nicer to give her the parts to make it herself like I did. As maybe she'd enjoy it. I've bought all different chocolates to put in it for her. So thinking I could wrap them up and number them. What are your thoughts?

MIL gave you the parts to make yourself an advent calendar. Now you want to give her them back to make it for herself?

Regifting is bad, regifting to the same person is beyond rude.

I agree. Why on earth would she want the pieces to assemble a craft project YOU wanted to do?
Odd idea.

No it's a completely different set of fabrics because I know she liked mine when I made it. I'm not giving her the old parts back?? You're both being pretty rude tbh

It's not clear in your post that its new fabric. I'd make it for her as she may or may not like doing sewing. But I'd try to give it filled in time for the 1st.

It depends if it's definitely something she would want to do. If not it could seem like regifting. If she would like it I don't see the problem. Although maybe something other than chocolate would be nice? I would do different teas for my mil but choose something she would like.

I see exactly what you're saying - she gave you the bits for a craft project that you enjoyed doing, and you're wondering if she'd like the same.

I think really though only you can know the answer to that! If she's someone who enjoys making projects, it could be the perfect gift. But equally she might prefer something that you'd made & the thought / time you'd have put into it.

Ah you see it depends. My mom buys me craft kits and I love them. She loves the idea of making them but doesn’t have the time. My mom treated herself to a blackwork embroidery kit and I’m making it for her as she loves it but wont be able to do it for ages. If your MIL is like that (or has a heap of craft stuff that she’s not made) then I’d make it for her. She will appreciate the effort.

Make it for her and then buy her a present for Christmas because an advent calendar is pretty useless as a Christmas present.

I like the sentiment but agree that’s it definitely would depend if your MIL is crafty and liked doing stuff like that!!

Disagree with previous poster who said advent calendars are no good as Christmas presents. I think some of the nicer ones out there (candles, beauty, gin) make far nicer Christmas presents than some useless crap that wouldn’t get used really hopes her husband’s reading takes the hint and buys her the Liberty London one and the excitement and joy lasts longer too!

How about you make one for her, maybe a nice wooden one so that it’s different to what she gave you, could paint and decorate and pretty sure you can buy the kits in Hobby craft, and then fill with all her favourite things?

Or cut yourself some slack and buy an appropriate one for her, another week or so you might find a good little bargain when the shops start to reduce them all.

I think it’s a lovely idea to make her an advent calendar, and fill it with some nice little treats. It’s a very appropriate way to thank her for her support and it’s a little daily treat (often people who are good at supporting others don’t do enough for themselves). Maybe you could add in a few other little treats - a nail varnish, a cream or perfume sample, some nice teas, etc.

Giving her the makings of an advent calendar is a nice thought but it’s not a “thank you for all you’ve done for us and now it’s your turn to be pampered” kind of gift. It’s another thing for her to do. While it might be a nice gift if she’s into crafts, I don’t think it’s equivalent to the gift that you planned, and doesn’t convey the same message iyswim

I agree with the above poster. Make one for her. But perhaps ramp up the gifts other than chocolate - perhaps decide on four or half of the advent gifts could be something like a pair of earrings or some nice toiletries minis - look at Nuxe website that travel sets you could break one of those out, mini candle etc. That says thank you more that - here don't yourself from an idea you got from her.

As a MIL myself I wouldn't want anything that would take up my valuable time, and certainly not a DIY advent calendar! Flowers, chocs, cake, an afternoon tea somewhere nice (with you), silk pyjamas?