4 year old girl who wants everything!!!

[golddustwomen]

What are you getting your 4 year old dds this year?
Mine hasn't actually asked for anything specific, just every single thing that's pink on the toy adverts

At 4 I would wait till closer to the time but also use your own knowledge of what she will play with

Mine wants a unicorn poopsie surprise and a Luna pomsie.
Think that’s all she’s asked for so far.

At that age, I basically decided based on what I knew they would like and play with and then directed their attention to the things I'd decided upon or bought. Apparently Santa was always brilliant at knowing exactly what they wanted even if they didn't really know themselves...quote from my son when he was about 10.

Ha, I do that with DS(4) and DD(5), WaxOn. It works a treat!

I just loved when they were old enough to write lists and the list was basically what I had hidden away already. They are very suggest able at that age or they have strong opinions of what they want. Both are easy to deal with. It's when they get to be teenagers and give you no clue that it gets hard

We have always said you can only ask Santa for 3 things and only one can be a “bigger” item. Santa then brings a few more surprises that he thinks you will like. Has definitely saved them asking for every other toy they see in a TV ad and me never being sure what they really want.
If you suggest different things you can change their minds. I’ve just managed it with my nearly 9 year old. By suggesting something different that I pointed out all the different things he could do with rather than one item that only did one thing. It’s all in the phrasing.

I'm another who limits lists. 5 things, and only one can be big. This gives me room for GP ideas too.

I've a friend who was recently blown away by my ability to limit lists. Santa doesn't bring toys you're too big or too little for, nor live animals, real working spaceships to fly to the moon won't fit on his sleigh!

I think the easiest way to reduce this is for DD to see less adverts. I try to keep tv time to BBC or on demand to avoid the continuous barrage of pink plastic on milkshake/ similar channels.
We say father Christmas has to make things for every child so he gets one or two proper presents and the rest are stocking fillers. Other things we ask family and frie.ds for are things we know she likes, at the moment what she really wants for Christmas is a marble run, but I'm expecting that to change to a pomsie at some point. We also try to steer the conversation sometimes to what she thinks the pets might like for Christmas or what she would like to buy/make for people..as Iwantitis is hard to listen to, and not fun for her to think about.
For the stocking I've got some Russian dolls and a kaleidoscope, I thought they seemed like fun things elves would make. I know we only have a couple of years before she will be desperate for a phone or a tablet 😣 not sure what I'll have to.say when that time comes.

We say our children can ask for one thing in writing to Father Christmas in early December. We have a chat before they do their letters and I try and steer them to a quality toy rather than tat! Gives me a chance to buy said toy and they keep the rest of their wish list for me to give out to family if they ask for ideas, I make it plain they won't get everything on the list though

@ohlittlepea, this is exactly what we do! Stick to CBeebies,Netflix and Primemeans they never see adverts and thus have lengthy toy desires 😅

Wonder how long we can keep it up for 😂

We also stick to Cbeebies and Netflix and DD doesn't have access to YouTube so isn't really influenced by adverts. She still finds out about the latest crazes at school though so has come home talking about Hatchimals, Lol dolls etc even if she's not exactly sure what they are. She is still quite easy to sway though so I can steer her towards stuff I know she will definitely play with.

I remember having to tell DD that a ‘proper swimming pool’ wouldn’t fit under the tree, nor would a ‘reel helleycopter’

Just some ideas of what our 4 year old would like -

• Barbie bits & pieces
• Taller kitchen ( so hard to find one that isnt just for toddlers)
• Bike
• Games - pop up pirate hungry hippos etc
• Baby doll set - cot pram high chair etc

But basically one of everything from Argos that has a red mark next to it is fair game 😂

Avoid TV and shop catalogues. My neighbour has a 4 year old DD. Apparently (this week) she’d like Lego, binoculars and something to do with super heroes but if she’s anything like mine were at that age, they had no real preferences but just liked presents!

Mine wants Swim to me Puppy and Baby Wow walking Meghan. She is 4 early next year and she says she wants everything every time an advert comes on tv! However, if you ask her what she wants Santa to bring her it is just those two toys.

My teen on the other hand has left me a list on amazon ..... 😂

Shockers - that is hilarious!!

Thanks for the suggestions everyone.
She has came home today asking for a pomsie, she's never mentioned that when seeing adverts so I'm guessing that's the toy all the girls at school are talking about this year!

Your DD is not too old to have things reined in. Tell her that Santa allows 5 gifts. One main present, something to read, something to wear, something to eat and a surprise. You can buy her more of course if you want to.

My DD is 6 and has asked for every girly thing known to man.... 😦

Mine isn't 4 until early next year but she wants Poopsie, a bath bomb maker and a mermaid doll. She doesn't know about Wrapples but I know she would love it so thats on my list for her as well.

My extremely wise sil told us that Santa brings stocking presents. This was valuable advice. It meant we could adjust our budget depending on our circumstances and if the big ticket item had sold out, we just told kids it couldn't be found, maybe think again for your birthday.

My 4 to dd doesn't really see adverts because she watches cbeebies / Netflix as others have said. She has said she wants a dog on a lead (I did confirm a pretend one!) , a kite and she also asked for a cuddly unicorn she saw in Asda the other day. Tbh though I thoroughly I expect her to change her mind constantly! Last year she did see an advert for puppy surprise and seemed really taken with it so we got one and she hardly touched it!

I love the idea of telling them that Santa will only do so many presents. I also have a 4 yo who wants everything he sees on telly and when the Smyths catalogue popped through the door it almost blew his mind!

Santa doesn't bring duplicates and he doesn't bring everything and he brings some surprises.

My 4yo last year was quite taken with a walking doll (think it was baby born) but tbh fancy dress and colouring pencils are most used in this house.