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Everyone around me has money and this year I have none.

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Carmen99 · 23/10/2018 22:03

So, all my immediate family are in pretty good financial positions right now. In last 10 years I've never had the sort of money they have but I've had enough that I've been able to comfortably spend similar to what they spend on me at Christmas.
This year has been a really difficult one for me and I've ended in a very tight financial situation. I have no spare money. I'm not yet on benefits but I'm very close to needing them and my situation is going to be very difficult for a number of years. They, on the other hand, are (in some cases) millionaires or close to earning a million. I only buy for immediate family. Some of my siblings have done a lot for me over last 6 months...generous with their time and money. Really helped me out.
I know I could decide not to do Christmas presents this year but I really want to get them something, partly to say thank you but needs to be largely thoughtful rather than costing loads.
I'm not creative and don't have much free time.
Main people I need to buy for are:
Person 1- loves outdoors. Walking. Cares about environment. Healthy over 70. Not a great cook.
Person 2- animal mad 30 year old. Lives on farm. Stylish. Creative. Has 2 young children. Likes cooking.
Person 3- loves outdoors. Outdoor pursuits. Particularly slightly risky sports (but done 'everything' and got qualifications in 'everything'). Also likes fishing.
Person 4- travels extensively in job (mainly uk). Often stays in hotels. Stylish. Sociable. Lots of friends. Executive in company. Female in 40s.

Any original ideas what i can buy please for each/ any of them?! Or how I can generally get good presents given my finances!
Thanks.

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PippilottaLongstocking · 23/10/2018 22:13

What’s your budget per person? For some people a ‘cheap’ present would be £50 for others it’s under £5!

PippilottaLongstocking · 23/10/2018 22:19

My go to for cheap-but-nice presents are locally made fudge/chocolate/honey/booze/soap, but that’s not very personal

LeMesmer · 23/10/2018 22:25

I think it really has to be the thought put into it rather than the money spent, but that’s no problem as most people would mich rather have a really thoughtful gift.

  1. pair of really good walking socks, or a map/ book or good walks where they enjoy walking (or somewhere close where they can discover new walks.
  2. cooking with children cookbook, some sort of cooking gadget, a bit more personal a stylish scarf or glives.
  3. Book of best fishing places in the area, a good knife for fishing (sounds a bit random but my dad was an angler and liked a good knife).
  4. More difficult but something related to travel, a practical toiletries bag ( my sister in law bought me one that has loads of compartments and can be hung up, very useful), a couple of books or vouchers for the journeys.

Not very good suggestions maybe, but I think if you have a tight budget the main thing is to think about something related to what they would really want, not necessarily something expensive.

Carmen99 · 23/10/2018 23:16

Thanks for suggestions so far!
Hmm...Ideally I would like to spend about £40 per person.

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LeMesmer · 23/10/2018 23:17

Sorry, I just realised what I said there sounds so condescending. ‘People would much rather have a thoughtful gift’. That’s fine if you have 900 quid to spend and they have 1000. I know when you have 10 quid and they have e.g., 200 and you feel awful you can’t afford more. You shouldn’t but you do. It’s not just about Christmas gifts. The principal of buying thoughtful things still stands I think but I’m sorry if I offended you OP.

Rednaxela · 23/10/2018 23:18

£40 is not inexpensive Hmm

Sorry OP you've lost me there

LeMesmer · 23/10/2018 23:20

40 can be inexpensive if the rest of the family spends much more.

Sforsh49 · 23/10/2018 23:24

You could buy a nice bound plain paged book and then for each of them google the things they are interested in and make them a scrap book, so for example, maps of walks, unusual recipes, fishing lakes which allow visiting fishermen, boutique hotels, style ideas. It would be something you've thought about and put time into and you could write an introduction about how they've helped you this year and how you hope this gift shows your appreciation . You could do this on very modest budget and it would be from the heart.
Or how about a magazine subscription for each of them around their interests (you may be able to get this in addition), walking, cooking, fishing, style (vogue etc).

Annandale · 23/10/2018 23:25

In years when i'm boracic i just buy books for everyone. They always make great presents, can be thoughtful and personal and beautiful, and are even cheap to wrap. £25 is a REALLY expensive book present. I just bought Ben Macintyre's The Spy and the traitor for my father in law - i know he will love it.

For the outdoorsy people, top of the range Bridgedale walking socks (around £15 a pair) are another option. Perhaps particularly for women, Izzy Lane alpaca bedsocks from British rescue sheep (yes really - about £22) are glorious and luxurious.

chickenchip · 23/10/2018 23:25

My go to in those situations is a nice framed family photo - you/them

Carmen99 · 23/10/2018 23:28

LeMesmer- you did not offend me at all and your suggestions were great.
I'm genuinely sorry if I've caused offence to anyone. I think I've probably just worded it badly. The reality is I will be selling things to afford Christmas. I know I'm lucky to have that much stuff to sell and also know some would argue I'm stupid to spend so much but that's not what this thread is about. I just want present ideas....please?

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Hedgyhoggy · 23/10/2018 23:30

No 1 a personalised OS map. You add a picture and a title and you can choose the area. I did one for Hubby and put our house in the middle. Remember I got it through an offer on here

NonaGrey · 23/10/2018 23:35

I have more money than other members of my friends and family. I don’t care what they spend on me (if anything).

I’d be quite happy with a nice Poinsettia and spending time with them. I’d never ever want someone I love to stress over what to get me.

Christmas is absolutely not about who can spend the most.

LeMesmer · 23/10/2018 23:49

You haven’t offended me Carmen, what I meant is it sounds condescending to say to someone just buy a thoughtful gift when, I know, if you have so much less than everyone else you panic about Christmas. And 40 quid per person is not a lot these days if you have well off relatives. That said, I do think a lot of well off families don’t put much thought into a gift (they don’t always have to) and someone who does is appreciated.

I have gone from being the poorest to the wealthiest in the family and as Nona says I don’t care what they spend.

naivetyisthenewblack · 23/10/2018 23:59

Magpie has some great gifts, mostly stuff for the house - they have lots of animal and outdoor themed stuff in different styles.

Their sale always seems to have amazing prices, check it out: www.magpieline.com/shop/outlet

naivetyisthenewblack · 24/10/2018 00:16

I got these 3 tins in the Magpie sale. £3 reduced from £16 for both my mum and MIL.

I'm going to get the kids to bake some biscuits to go in them, that's the present from the kids sorted.

Everyone around me has money and this year I have none.
naivetyisthenewblack · 24/10/2018 00:22

This is a very particular style so wouldn't suit everyone of course, but it's good quality - hand painted porcelain - and only £15 for both, reduced from £55.

Everyone around me has money and this year I have none.
Everyone around me has money and this year I have none.
naivetyisthenewblack · 24/10/2018 00:28

"vegan friendly" fine china apparently (when is fine china not vegan friendly?!)

But it's a big sheep mug anyway! £3 reduced from £11.

CBA to post more but that's my top tip - Magpie's sale section has got me some very decent, good quality presents for little money the last couple of years. Their notebooks are nice too.

naivetyisthenewblack · 24/10/2018 00:29

Damn, didn't post the picture!

Everyone around me has money and this year I have none.
KC225 · 24/10/2018 01:54

For one and two I would go to treesdirect for beautiful trees. Christmas ones include holly, apple, pear for around 40.00. Plan a local walk near to them with pub/coffee stop offs and give a list od datea tge two od you can go.

For two there is a lovely gift set of holly and ivy trees for around 30.00. Or they have elderflower, and hazel for nearer to 40 but they could use for cooking later on. Also, include an offer to babysit their small children so they can get out.

For the action man. A personalised fishing. Priest (to knock the fish on the head) made from stag horns.

For the glamorous lady, I would suggest Lulu Guinness note cards and pen. Or a Nuxe travel set. Or tickets to see Dior show at V&A.

Maccycheesefries · 24/10/2018 04:23

If you were my relative, I would want you to save your money instead of spending it on me given your circumstances. I do understand that you want to thank them for their help.

For good quality affordable outdoor gifts, have a look at warehousewww.mountainwarehouse.com

Rex London used to be the dot.com gift shop www.rexlondontrade.com

I don't know your personal circumstances but can you apply for Christmas temp jobs even if it's weekend only. Hopefully it'll help take the financial heat off a bit even if for a short time.

www.peopleperhour.com

allthegoodusernameshavegone · 24/10/2018 04:35

£40 pp is not budget buying, I don’t think your finances can be that dire if you have £160 to spend on 4 gifts! I do hope you don’t then have to claim benefits?

PositivelyPERF · 24/10/2018 04:59

allthegoodusernameshavegone the OP has explained that she will be selling stuff, in order to buy gifts.

erinaceus · 24/10/2018 05:03

Have you considered one of secret santa or something like the Good Gift Guide or Oxfam Unwrapped? Another idea that goes down well among my family is to do cards to each other with a note inside about the meaningful charity we’ve picked out to donate to in lieu of a gift. So in your case Person 1 could be National Trust, Greenpeace, Woodland Trust or something like that. I don’t think you even have to mention how much you’ve donated personally. I think an arty card with a note like in it this is a lovely gift to give and to receive.

We’re not holier than thou or anything as a group, more none of us are in need of “stuff” really and some of us find gift-giving and receiving awkward.

Iagreewithmrsdevere · 24/10/2018 05:13

Hi OP, I'm in my 40s and travel a lot with work staying in hotels. I'll be asking for single size things for pampering like face masks, hair treatments etc for Christmas. Also maybe a premixed gin and tonic? A selection of them nicely packaged could be nice for number 4. (I'm not sure if I'm stylish but I think I'm probably an executive so I hope this helps.)