DH doesn't want to visit family

[mamatomjl]

Basically I want to go see my family for an hour on Christmas morning 20 min drive and will only spend an hour, DH doesn't want to come I said fine stay home I'll go with DD but he doesn't want us to, makes such a big deal out of it! I find my self going to say 'fine we will all go Boxing Day' but when I think about it I really start to get upset, I'd be heartbroken if when DD grew up she didn't even pop in for an hour at Christmas to get her presents! I don't want to do that to my DM!!

AIBU? What do I do keep DH happy Christmas Day and spent Boxing Day with DM? Or just pop round for an hour and put up with his moody comments till after Christmas 😩

He doesn't want to see his family as there not overly close and he doesn't like his step mum.

Maybe, given that he’s not close to his own family and dislikes his step mum, he was hoping to have a family Xmas morning with you and dd.

Each family has their Xmas traditions, perhaps he wants to make some with you. Can you compromise on visiting at tea time?

My DM doesn't drive

Why should OP have to compromise?

Seriously???

So we just plough through life doing whatever we want, utterly ignoring any loved one whatsoever?

Compromise is not a weakness or a bad word.

wonderandwander it's ONE HOUR for OP to see her mum.

The 1950s & it's Handmaidens are here again "do as you're told, woman🙄

"“Mum, would so love to see you on Christmas morning. DH worried about me driving DD on the roads and just wants to be an home that morning. I’m not too happy about it! but don’t want tension. Any chance you’d pop over here for a bit on Xmas morning"
If my dd sent me that message, I would be so worried.

I hate going anywhere on Christmas Day too.

Now you've said your mum doesn't drive, In afraid he'll have to be a big boy and suck it up that you want to make a visit. The people on the roads worry feels manipulative - that will be the case all through the Christmas period. You're going to be there for the rest of the day, but you want an hour with your mum.

I'd go and see my mum! And he can sulk as much as he likes. It's just for one hour.

I'm hoping we have a bond like me and my DM, I'd never move away from my DM or abandon her it would kill me !

Sorry but thats being a bit manipulative. Yiu expect your DD to live near you?

It's a bit dramatic to say that moving away would kill you, to be honest. Many people move away from family; it's the norm amongst most of my peer group who went away to university, I'd say.

I foresee a MiL from hell thread in future years!

NoWord I was thinking that (re MIL)

I think it would be interesting to see what the comments would be if the roles were reversed and it was the DH wanting to take DC to see MIL and said he was going, even though DW didn't want him to, especially if she would be in the kitchen cooking the Christmas Dinner whilst they were out.