Adult sons' gfs.

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So, three grown sons. One lives at home, gf (not sure how serious, he keeps it close) lives in another city, not met her. 2 lives away, serious gf of 10 months at Christmas, not met, but is quite glam. 3 moving in this week with gf, met her a lot. How to play presents? The same? Was thinking boots 3 for 2. Gift vouchers? Not bother with ones we haven't met? (I can't believe I'm thinking Christmas now)

Assuming you can run to it a small present for each seems in order. Just says ‘welcome’ and sets a good tone to the start of what might be a lifetime family relationship.

Nice smellies and either nice socks or a scarf try and not do 3 for 2 because they might think they got the free gift

I don't know the age of the Gf but my 2 0 something dds love a scarf

All the same: in future they may confer - you can't appear to have a favourite even at this early stage of the game imo!
Fluffy socks / scarf /smelly set /nice Xmas sweets .

Are they spending Christmas at your home? If so, I’d just do a small token gift as you’re hosting.

If you’re not, I’d still just get a token. My parents have known my husband for 17 years and adore him, but he (and all their sons/daughters-in-law) just get a lottery ticket or some beers they know he likes. My parents have 7 children and 15 grandchildren. While cost isn’t a big issue for them, hassle is so they never got into a habit of including in-laws in the madness of gift buying.

It works for us. My parents and I do big gifts for each other, they get my husband something small, and he gets them something small like some wine etc.

I wouldn't buy a gift for the ones you haven't met. If I was them I'd find it weird receiving a gift from someone I didn't know, especially if it's early in the relationship. It would seem a bit false to me.

Dh has declared nice chocolates for the lot, which is not a bad call. First time we'd only had DC to buy for and then they all get gfs! Typical. 🙄

Hotel chocolat box for them? Or boots 3 for 2 like you said, I still love the soap & glory stuff so am quite happy when DP's family buy me it in the boots offer!

I think nice chocs for all is a good shout. I was going to suggest avoiding smellies because they're a bit too subject to personal taste.

Chocs and a nice candle?

TK Maxx have some lovely candles in at the moment, only a few quid but feel and smell quite luxurious, that and some nice slipper socks or chocolates would be good!

Boots 3 for 2 do some fab gifts - yankee cabdles for the son/gf who are moving in together they possibly do chocs as well.

Good luck

I'd say your husband is bang on, nice box of chocolates for them all. PP mentioned Hotel chocolate, they are sooo good! Also shows you've gone to a bit more effort than just throwing a box of chocs in your supermarket trolley but not enough to make them feel awkward if they haven't got you anything.

Personally I’d only buy for the girl you’ve met. If they haven’t met you they might not think to reciprocate and then might feel awkward?

I would only buy for the gf you have met. It would seem a bit odd to me to buy for the ones you haven't unless they are coming over for christmas

Another one saying, only for the girlfriend you've just met. I would find it odd to receive a gift from a new boyfriend's parent if I hadn't met - it seems a bit passive aggressive, even if its well intended.

Pressie for the one you've met. Cards for all of them.

If you're going to meet them over the Christmas period then the suggestion of a nice candle is good, it's quite festive too.

Bottle of prosecco each in a giftbag, and small box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates to go with it for the ones you’ve met.

I would buy a gift for those you had met and/or were likely to be seeing over the holiday period.

I got mine an urban decay palette last year, that went down well. I hadn't met 2 out of 3 of them before.

www.johnlewis.com/urban-decay-eyeshadow-palette-naked/p1495700

I got it with 20% off in November. The do a smaller cheaper on I think as well.

I met my now PIL the first time at Christmas after 7 months dating in a long-distance relationship. I got a small present, nothing big but more than just a run of the mill one. I liked it that they made an effort not just getting something generic.

If my child would be in a serious relationship with living together I would count it as a person getting a serious gift. Somebody I don’t know but serious I would ask the child about favourite brands or hobbies. It sure about a toke like the chocolates mentioned.

But, please no candles unless you know they like them. I really can understand the trend of giving candles to unsuspecting recipients, I personally hate any kind of scented candles, we use plain one during Christmas and that’s it, you would waste your money on me.