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Christmas

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Adult sons' gfs.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 08/09/2018 12:32

So, three grown sons. One lives at home, gf (not sure how serious, he keeps it close) lives in another city, not met her. 2 lives away, serious gf of 10 months at Christmas, not met, but is quite glam. 3 moving in this week with gf, met her a lot. How to play presents? The same? Was thinking boots 3 for 2. Gift vouchers? Not bother with ones we haven't met? (I can't believe I'm thinking Christmas now)

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DelurkingAJ · 08/09/2018 15:47

Assuming you can run to it a small present for each seems in order. Just says ‘welcome’ and sets a good tone to the start of what might be a lifetime family relationship.

MrsJayy · 08/09/2018 15:50

Nice smellies and either nice socks or a scarf try and not do 3 for 2 because they might think they got the free gift

MrsJayy · 08/09/2018 15:52

I don't know the age of the Gf but my 2 0 something dds love a scarf

Aprilshowersnowastorm · 08/09/2018 15:54

All the same: in future they may confer - you can't appear to have a favourite even at this early stage of the game imo!
Fluffy socks / scarf /smelly set /nice Xmas sweets .

JustHereForThePooStories · 08/09/2018 15:59

Are they spending Christmas at your home? If so, I’d just do a small token gift as you’re hosting.

If you’re not, I’d still just get a token. My parents have known my husband for 17 years and adore him, but he (and all their sons/daughters-in-law) just get a lottery ticket or some beers they know he likes. My parents have 7 children and 15 grandchildren. While cost isn’t a big issue for them, hassle is so they never got into a habit of including in-laws in the madness of gift buying.

It works for us. My parents and I do big gifts for each other, they get my husband something small, and he gets them something small like some wine etc.

UbercornsGoggles · 08/09/2018 16:13

I wouldn't buy a gift for the ones you haven't met. If I was them I'd find it weird receiving a gift from someone I didn't know, especially if it's early in the relationship. It would seem a bit false to me.

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OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 08/09/2018 17:03

Dh has declared nice chocolates for the lot, which is not a bad call. First time we'd only had DC to buy for and then they all get gfs! Typical. 🙄

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ItWentInMyEye · 08/09/2018 17:10

Hotel chocolat box for them? Or boots 3 for 2 like you said, I still love the soap & glory stuff so am quite happy when DP's family buy me it in the boots offer!

tentative3 · 08/09/2018 17:21

I think nice chocs for all is a good shout. I was going to suggest avoiding smellies because they're a bit too subject to personal taste.

Fstar · 08/09/2018 20:26

Chocs and a nice candle?

PassTheMead · 12/09/2018 14:10

TK Maxx have some lovely candles in at the moment, only a few quid but feel and smell quite luxurious, that and some nice slipper socks or chocolates would be good!

letsdolunch321 · 12/09/2018 14:16

Boots 3 for 2 do some fab gifts - yankee cabdles for the son/gf who are moving in together they possibly do chocs as well.

Good luck

Merrz · 12/09/2018 14:24

I'd say your husband is bang on, nice box of chocolates for them all. PP mentioned Hotel chocolate, they are sooo good! Also shows you've gone to a bit more effort than just throwing a box of chocs in your supermarket trolley but not enough to make them feel awkward if they haven't got you anything.

StarShapedWindow · 12/09/2018 17:16

Personally I’d only buy for the girl you’ve met. If they haven’t met you they might not think to reciprocate and then might feel awkward?

Newtothis2017 · 12/09/2018 18:21

I would only buy for the gf you have met. It would seem a bit odd to me to buy for the ones you haven't unless they are coming over for christmas

KC225 · 13/09/2018 07:34

Another one saying, only for the girlfriend you've just met. I would find it odd to receive a gift from a new boyfriend's parent if I hadn't met - it seems a bit passive aggressive, even if its well intended.

Courtney555 · 13/09/2018 14:38

Pressie for the one you've met. Cards for all of them.

If you're going to meet them over the Christmas period then the suggestion of a nice candle is good, it's quite festive too.

Tentomidnight · 17/09/2018 18:41

Bottle of prosecco each in a giftbag, and small box of Hotel Chocolat chocolates to go with it for the ones you’ve met.

RaisinRainbow · 17/09/2018 19:03

I would buy a gift for those you had met and/or were likely to be seeing over the holiday period.

WhitefriarsDillyDuck · 17/09/2018 20:29

I got mine an urban decay palette last year, that went down well. I hadn't met 2 out of 3 of them before.

www.johnlewis.com/urban-decay-eyeshadow-palette-naked/p1495700

I got it with 20% off in November. The do a smaller cheaper on I think as well.

reluctantbrit · 17/09/2018 21:56

I met my now PIL the first time at Christmas after 7 months dating in a long-distance relationship. I got a small present, nothing big but more than just a run of the mill one. I liked it that they made an effort not just getting something generic.

If my child would be in a serious relationship with living together I would count it as a person getting a serious gift. Somebody I don’t know but serious I would ask the child about favourite brands or hobbies. It sure about a toke like the chocolates mentioned.

But, please no candles unless you know they like them. I really can understand the trend of giving candles to unsuspecting recipients, I personally hate any kind of scented candles, we use plain one during Christmas and that’s it, you would waste your money on me.

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