At a complete loss to know what to do with my parents. Dad early dementia - aged 70 looks 50 and has very good days and then bad days and nights. Mum 12 years younger and has just announced she cannot care for him and doesn't want to care for him and wants to put him in a nursing home. I am completely shocked and despite understanding she is tired of the around the clock care/being on alert I don't know how to help? She refuses completely to get care into the home and taking all the emotion out of it and sadness as a family I am at a real loss where to turn or what to do. I have spoken to my Dad who agrees she needs help and he will do what she wants. I have offered to take my Dad three days a week and pay for round the clock care, although he doesn't need that yet. But nothing is right for her bar the idea of a nursing home. Do you interfere or just accept it as is? Really am at a loss. Please know I live four hours away and I have had my husband parents live with me for the past two years and both have Alzhemiers and we care for them with support of outside care. I visit my own Mum every weekend and even try an odd middle of the week visit. I am so confused why she would go straight from o to 100 without the care in home as stepping stone or accept any help. Why put him out of his home without exploring other avenues. Thanks