Anyone else wish it was all over?

[PinkPaeonies]

Feeling so overwhelmed already. Only arrived at parents’ about 4 hours ago and wish I was on a plane going somewhere far away.

No one is happy but they could at least pretend to be. No sleeping arrangements made for my dc. Food I’m allergic to has been laid out on the buffet table and when I mention I can’t be near it I’m told effectively tough luck.

I feel sorry for the dc so keep trying to pep things up. But now find that DH has left the bag of stocking presents behind and now has to drive all the way home to find it. And he’s left his phone at home so I can’t even talk to him about the rubbish shouting at my father has just lashed out at me for no good reason.

Happy Christmas everyone. Really and truly hope yours is going better than mine.

Oh Pink, how demoralising. Sending a hand hold. I do hope matters improve. I wish sleep for your DC, a speedy return for your DH, that there are some things you can eat tomorrow and that your father stops his appalling behaviour. Hope you do not have to stay in that atmosphere too long. Take care.

Ah that's rubbish. All I can say is try and make the best of it for now but when you're making plans for next year remember what happened this year.
It's awful that your family haven't the common sense to cater for your allergies.

Go home straight after breakfast

That atmosphere sounds awful

Next year stay at home far less stressful

Sounds very much like our Christmas last year
I made it very clear to dh that we wouldn't have a repeat episode so this year we are at home.
Hope tomorrow goes better for you

I also wish it was all over BUT this year I'm putting on a brave face. My Dd1 died suddenly 2years ago. That first Christmas was awful dd2 was 3 weeks old I spent the day in bed with the duvet over my head.
Last year wasn't much better if I'm honest.
This year I'm trying to get through it with a smile on my face. I know tomorrow when I go to the cemetery I won't be able to hold it together. I actually hate Christmas, hopefully as dd2 gets older I can enjoy it for her.

@PinkPaeonies that sounds awful hopefully tomorrow will be better for you. Is there any alcohol available?

@park, I am not sure what to say other than I'm sure you and your dd2 will learn to have a day that is best for you both. I am sorry for your loss. Wishing you a merry Christmas.

@op , as soon as your o/h gets back get I the car and go home it will be like a revelation has happend

I'm in a house in the country with my dc and a whole bunch of random who people who have run away from "family Christmas" obligations, one way or another. It's brill.

to you all xxx

@PinkPaeonies I second 'just go home' I have allergies and if people don't respect them I leave.

Spending Christmas at home just me, Dh and Dc is blissful.

This is your life, surround yourself with people who add value.

pink that sounds hideous. I wouldn't want to stay there if I were in your position. I would be tempted to just pack up and go!

If it’s that bad just seriously pack up and go home as others have said. Sounds like he’ll on earth and Xmas is meant to be such a magical and special day

Goodness, Pink that is no way to live, why are you doing this to yourself? Could you just pack up and leave? Oh, ok, soon as DH gets back, just go. Have a lovely time with your own little family. People who treat you the way you have described, just do not deserve your company.

Thank you all so much for your kind messages. I think I will brave the Christmas lunch and then make my excuses. You’re all right - I’m never doing this again and DH agrees.

Park - I am so sorry for your loss - how awful for you - puts my problem into perspective. I really hope that this year things less raw for you. Sending you hugs. Xx

I think an awful lot of people try to buy in to this whole 'family together' amazing Christmas but reality isn't an ad on tv!
I have a lovely family, great parents, and siblings ( no small children), and they all say that they miss me on Christmas Day, it's not the same without me etc.
But we did go there once, with our small DC (now older, have 3) and it was a PITA!
They have a grown up Christmas, with a long lunch, wine and good tv.
My kids want to play games and we get lunch done early. The kids want to be at home with their stuff.
So we stay put and do what suits us best. Will go to them tomorrow/27th for a few days, and that is always fun.
Do what works for you and your family at the time. Hope you have headed home and enjoy the rest of the day!