How much should you spend on your partner?

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I am with my partner just over two years. We decided this year we would spend 50 each on each other's x-mas gifts because we have a huge rent and I am in my Masters with very little income.
A friend of mine who would have a little more income than me, but not much, is spending over 200 on her partner of about 2 years. Both our partners have good incomes.
I am worried that we are just being cheap with each other now possibly too early in the relationship? Should we still be trying to spoil one another? Or is it really just down to circumstances?

I think its OK to discuss it.
It avoids any awkwardness that might result from opening presents together, perhaps in front of family, and one person has clearly spent much more than the other.
When me and DH were first together we had really mismatched expectations.
So I would buy him one thing for about £20 and he would buy me a whole stack of books and some new clothes.
I did feel a bit awkward about it.

unlimited it’s fine (and sensible) to discuss it with each other just not to discuss it with other people.

£80-90 each here, but mostly stuff we would have bought anyway (other years it has been much less). Clothes, slippers and bath robe for DH, plus a gadget thing he wanted for work and a cd he asked for.
I'm getting a new dressing gown, gloves I can drive in (chose these myself), a journal and pens, a CD and a small surprise.
Mostly things people would just buy themselves, really so I don't feel like it's as much as it sounds (£90 sounds like a lot to me!).

We have spent about £200 on each other this year. No kids and we have been quite frugal in previous years. A big part of my budget went on a tech gift for him. We like buying for each other and all of our bills are paid so don’t see the issue. The key thing is neither of us would go out and spend that much on ourselves.

I wouldn’t judge anyone though whether they didn’t exchange gifts or spent £500. As long as they are financially solvent and happy, all good

Please don't worry...it really is the thought that counts.
My DH and I have been together 9 years and at the start of our relationship, we had absolutely no spare cash and resorted to making home made gifts for each other (I made him a pack of 'love vouchers' featuring photos of our special places. He wrote me a song) but over the years,.we have spent a lot more. This year for example, I've bought him a new guitar and I'm hoping he has bought me a good quality hiking jacket (we love walking). We have a child now, and another due in 6 weeks but still like to spoil each other where we can.

As much as we spend on each of the kids.
Money pot gets split 4 ways, we do have a good budget though.

Thanks for the helpful responses.....
Love the idea of a night away....seems so much better than silly presents!!! Also, love the lengths of string offer...... that may be my next thread topic... who knows !!

MERRY CHRISTMAS !!!

About £150 on each other.