Anyone else gritting their teeth over inlaws this Xmas?

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Ugh, just venting really. Loads of backstory with the PIL but got to host them for tea on Thursday. I know I'm lucky that I won't have to entertain them over the 'main event' but I'm stressed already and wishing the week away. Dh and I finished work last Friday and feel like we can't really enjoy the break until after they have gone on Thursday!

We both wish we could go nc with them but the hassle of it and the effect on dh's wider family would mean it's not worth it. We only see them a handful of times a year anyway, just wish it wasn't over Xmas! Grr....

Not sure I can suck up them picking holes in my beautiful house and precious dogs, let alone literally ignoring my two dc to the point where they don't even get an Xmas present!

..... And breathe.

I can totally relate, my MIL and SIL will be with us for Xmas dinner. I can only tolerate MIL in small doses - she is very patronising, shows favouritism to one DC over another and I've even less tolerance since she burnt my dd's top with a cigarette despite making earlier promises she would never smoke around the DCs when babysitting.

MIL has 3 children and they find her very hard work also. My DH's other sister hasn't laid eyes on her for nearly a year. We have never hosted MIL for Xmas but have decided to take the plunge and see how it goes. My SIL who is also attending is pretty much at the end of her tether with her mother so I'm not sure how it will all go down when she has a few drinks in her!

No but I am for my family. I can cope with the in laws just fine

Yep, we have the PILs coming to stay from Xmas Eve to boxing day. I will be 36 weeks pregnant with DC1 and therefore stone cold sober! PILs are doing the cooking though so not all bad.

Yes I will be getting my teeth through several days of inlaws. Dreading it already. Such a shame that Christmas has to be like this.

It's not our turn to have MiL to stay this year. DH has taken DC up to see ILs for a few days while I remain at home working and cleaning the house (or eating noodles and watching trashy telly...)

I try to not let it show but gritted teeth is not relaxing.

It puts such a dampener on what should be a lovely time when you have irritating family members, blood or in law. I'm pissed off we were guilt tripped into doing Christmas with my inlaws again after last year was a total disaster. But I am looking forward to putting my foot down about next year, and I don't care if it causes a row because it will avoid any on the lovely Christmas I'm planning for 2018

Didn't think I'd be alone on this one. Kudos to those of you who have to deal with their inlaws shit on the actual day itself!
I'm tempted to make their visit so miserable that they leave pretty sharpish.

I've got mine coming one day in between Christmas and the New Year. I'm not looking forward to it - in fact no - I'm dreading it to be honest. Sils children are allowed to do whatever they want and woe betide anyone who tells them off which means we will have to put away out of sight anything we don't want wrecked. They will be fighting over who gets a hold of my baby while I will just look on in dread. I will be glad when they've gone to be honest. I know they don't like me which makes it even worse.

Wait, you finished work last Friday? How long do you have off?

My daughter's grandparents on her Dad's side and her Dad himself haven't bothered with our daughter for nearly two years! I wish they would be seeing on Xmas day!!! Or any day!! Yes she doesn't need them etc but they're her family regardless and I'm gutted for her.

Please be thankful this isn't the case for you! Seeing your child totally rejected is heartbreaking

MotherofaSurvivor - I have to watch my dc get totally ignored by my PIL. They are not their grandchildren as they are children with my exh but I have been with my dh for 7 years and married for 6. They are teens now and used to it, they literally dont speak to them apart from a hello. They have never bought them an Xmas present, even though they happily do presents for me and dh.

I actually think they loathe my dc as my dh loves them as his own but they aren't if you know what I mean.

They constantly go on about their blood grandchildren like they are the most important kids in the world and how much they are spoilt by them etc. I think mil does it to wind me up, but I don't bite to it.

But I get what you mean, I know how much it hurts when your dc get rejected.

Yep. BIL lovely but his wife is a self centred, selfish bitch, and young Dnephew and Dniece are just like her and out of control. Rude, ungrateful, and undeserving of any nice presents or hospitality. Dreading their visit

Not meaning to revive this thread, but was looking for somewhere to vent. Just had 9 days and nights of my in laws. They are out of the UK so it's always a few days but this year we did Dec 24 to Jan 2nd.
Never again. MIL is fantastic but her husband is a bitter and now housebound old man. I try to make allowances and I know I will always be the man who stole his little princess but after 37 years !!!! I deserve better treatment. Maybe it was the 2 years unemployed or the 5 year prison sentence (JOKING)
Anyway that's it for me I am giving up trying with him. I will visit but only a few days max and I will try to let it all flow over me