Should I let DS put £50 Lego set on his Christmas Santa letter when I've already blight his presents

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Yes - I'm pretty stupid for buying the presents first & then asking him to write his letter. Next year I will ask him to do a wish list first.

I have a ton of skylanders tat figures for him which he will love and lots of other bits and bobs. But if I had got him to write a letter first then I could have swapped silky small pants, tshirts, little board games and got the £50 Lego set instead. It all mounts up to the price of a big ticket gift so maybe I should have gone for big present rather than lots of little ones.

Should I gently nudge him to filling his letter with requests for skylanders figures that I already have bought?

Title should read 'bought' - is blight a Freudian slip ?

Return the tat he hasn't asked for and buy what he wants. And organise timing better next time!

Could you keep some of it for Birthday and buy the Lego set instead? How old is DS and how disappointed will he be not to get the Lego?

Sigh - that is a brilliant reply austen

How old is he for silky pants ?! If he gets any money he can buy the Lego.

nearly he's 10 so on cusp of believing but if he gets as far as writing it on the list I would be gutted to let him down.

I'd probably buy the Lego as well if you can afford it, even if you give him everything else. There's nothing worse than really wanting something at Christmas as a kid ( within limits) and not getting it.

Is it likely that he'll get money off any relatives? DS1 changed his mind a week before his birthday and decided he wanted a £100 lego set. He didn't get it, but he got some money from family members. Thanks to Black Friday deal we managed to pick it up for half price after his birthday.

Eeeeek liz was meant to be 'silly' not 'silky'.

Dd is the same age, I'm making the most of buying Lego and toys whilst she still wants them.

We don't necessarily buy things they have put on the list - some things they get some they don't. Maybe we're weird! But I can't recall getting everything off the list I wrote as a kid.
However if you could return skylanders and replace, then maybe go for it.

why would you leave it til the week before Christmas to ask him to write his letter when you've already bought a load of presents?! It just seems cruel if you then have no intention of getting what he would actually like?!

Sorry, reply was unnecessarily harsh. Could you sell some of smaller bits (Facebook selling site probably best as too late for EBay) to recoup some cash for the Lego? Will it be his birthday any time soon, could you keep the sky landers stuff til then?

You can just ask him what he thinks of skylanders figures and that he should also ask it too for christmas "if he Likes".

My dd has just told me she had a dream that santa definitely got her one thing on her list....that santa hasn't actually got her

Not sure what to do either! Am in a similar boat.

Put aside silly tat and board games for birthday if you can't return them. As a rule I don't buy anything like that anymore as you say it all adds up to what could be a more exciting and desirable big gift.

This is why I have never bought a single Christmas present earlier than about the 10th of December.

I don't think I'd change it all at this point. Surely he knows that a letter isn't like a demand; it's a wish list and Santa makes the final decision.

Agree LoveYou. Although it does come with downside of fighting the crowds today and paying excessive next day/evening only delivery fees to make sure it all arrives in time!

Are you sure he still believes at 10? Do you not routinely have the Santa letter discussion that goes “Gosh, a £50 Lego set! I didn’t know you wanted that. Well, you know Santa doesn’t bring everything- anything else you want to add, just to give him some options?” And then steer to Skylanders...

But, but but... we were always told that Santa wouldn't be always able to bring us everything we asked for because, 'has to give presents to all the children' and 'room on sleigh' and 'elves are extremely busy and can always make everything' etc etc. Plus for us, Santa only brought smaller gifts (saves other children wondering why they only got x y z when friend got several mega expensive items). Expensive gifts were from parents or grandparents.

Elves CAN'T always make everything'.

I would probably buy it if I could afford to. He's not going to believe in Santa for much longer, so I'd keep the magic alive.
My ds is now asking for things for Xmas and I'm having a wobble... and I may have given in to one or two