Too many people, too few bedrooms. What to do?

[Awks]

At Christmas, we will have us, my parents, his elderly mum who is just discharged from hospital, our dd1 and partner and dd2. We have 3 bedrooms for 8 people, and our guests comfort is important to me. Dh and dd2 are able to sleep anywhere and are night owls so a blow up/sofa in sitting room is fine but but I need to lie down, quietly in the dark to sleep, plus I'm so knackered by all the cooking, entertaining and bloody smiling that I normally am in bed at 10pm (which I love). I said I will make up a bedroom in our freezing but adequate office room at the end of the garage and will be quite happy - dh says that's ridiculous because its a] baltic and b] miles from a loo . I've told him to mind his own business but omg I just want to sleep in my own bed so much :) How does everyone else squash in and how do you hide the seething rage at forfeiting your bed?

I don't invite more people than I can accommodate.

I'd put dd2 and partner in the office (with a heater) and have my own bed if I were you.
They'll be perfectly comfortable 🙂

Even with your DH and DD in the sitting room and you in the office you are a bedroom short.

I honestly don't understand why people invite too many guests to their house or why the guests accept (assuming they know the arrangements)

Sorry, miscalcalutated- still would hate to be this crowded.

I would book a nearby hotel room for my myself!

I wouldn't invite that many people. It doesn't sound much fun for anyone, sorry.

Just as an aside, how do you plan to cope during the day?

Our house is 3 bed and I can't imagine seating 8 people in the lounge or dining room comfortably.

How many nights? I could manage that arrangement for one night. Take a hot water bottle (or two) to the office room. Hopefully you won’t need the loo in the middle of the night.

You and mil in your bed, dd & partner in bedroom 2, your parents in bedroom 3, dd & DH in livingroom?

Wouk d your dd1 and partner not go in a hotel if you paid?

This one is easy. The parents get a bedroom each, you and husband keep your room. That’s the three rooms.

Your single daughter can have a blow up single mattress in your room if space, and your other daughter and partner can have their blow up mistress in sitting room.

Simples.

Loving the idea of a blow up mistress!

Oops. Sorry 😂

MIL is only staying as she's recently discharged from hospital and can't be left alone atm and her live in carer is elsewhere. So it's either squash with us or respite care in a home. So that's why we are overcrowded as me and dd1 normally squash in that room.

We will be fine, it's all family and only for a couple of days and tbh I was just trying to lighten my mood. Think a blow up mistress is probably the way to go though, tbh

Your parents take 1 room, Mil room 2, you and Dh room 3, dd and partner have the office and dd2 either living room or air bed in your room ! Hopefully calculated correctly

dd2 said her and her partner would be happy to slum it and I might let them. I've made sure we have had loads and loads of "perfect" Christmasses and this year what's important is that aged MIL has as best a time as possible and it might be a bit cramped but luckily our house is quite big, just not enough actual bedrooms.

Thank you for all suggestions, appreciate them.

We sometimes put the in-laws in a nearby air bnb, could any of your guests stay nearby rather than in the house...?

Excess guests stay in our local travelodge. Can’t you send some of the adult children and partners out to a local hotel or b&b

ChangingStates my parents/dd1 and partner could actually stay in MIL's empty house but they don't want to as "Christmas is for families" . They have that option though, if they change their minds. Me and dh can't as we have to be able to care for MIL.

All will be well, I've processed this in my mind and have got over myself now. Kids+ dependent elderly parents + non dependent active parents + Christmas = stress

Heater in office should be fine, maybe an electric blanket plus hot water bottles? I would put DD and partner out there. Bit more private for them.
Then you in your room, room each for sets of parents and then DD2 in lounge.

Alternatively do you know anyone with a campervan or caravan who would be happy to park on your drive over xmas?

I seem to be having 12 to stay but they're friends plus children so have told them to expect indoor camping!

No idea how it will work out, but hopefully more flexible than if it were an older generation!

Sounds like you've thought of the best option unless all kids could sleep in the lounge?

If I was dd1 I'd be happy to squeeze into a single bed in the cold with my bf, if it meant a bit more privacy !

That sound awful. How many bathrooms and loos do you have

Can't your daughters and their partners book into a b&b/hostel/hotel for the night? It's just somewhere for them to sleep & they'll get their own bathrooms & privacy. This way you're not all in each others pockets and you've all got a bit of breathing space.

Pretty sure I’ve spent more Christmas Eve nights on air beds than in proper beds. Your DDs will be fine, it will be fun keep your own bed! You deserve it.