What have you bought yourself?

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So we have threads about what we've bought the dc, and millions of treads about what we would like, so I thought I'd do a tread about what we've actually got. I'm a huge believer in a bit of self-love and treating yourself as an equally important person who also deserves some gifts ❤️ so I have bought myself:

2 personalised Emma bridgewater mugs
A mini Emma bridgewater mug/tree decoration
A mittens and hot drink cup
Bath salts

A M&S shimmersoft bathrobe, I thought it would be tres tacky but actually its amazing! Lots of new clothes from GAP they were doing 40% off this week, hadn't shopped there in years but they had some lovely bits. A new Aspinal wallet as there is 20% off today, going to give it to DH to give me for xmas, he usually gives me a "promise" that I never cash in so it will be exciting to actually get a gift on christmas day!

“By my logic” you don’t have to do anything barbaraofseville; I was saying what I did, it was not an instruction to anybody else.

Primarily my husband will pick up on things I like and buy them, in the usual way of gifts. I was just saying that if it was something I was more particular about, I would give him suggestions so there would be an element of him choosing/putting in effort/ordering (things you suggested above made something a present) rather than buy it for myself. It’s not such a ridiculous idea - Amazon have devised wish lists for this very purpose, and I think Father Christmas operates something similar

I don’t need a book, or a lipstick, I can wait a few weeks for something like that certainly, and never want anything like that so badly I’d be upset if it sold out; I’m not a child pining after a fingerling. Something I needed is of course different but I wouldn’t consider that a present to myself, or anything to do with Christmas shopping.

Can I make clear as well that I was not criticising anyone on this thread for buying themselves things, I just hadn’t considered it and wondered if it was a problem for people trying to buy for them or if it was agreed upon.

I keep buying myself chocolate oranges, and they keep disappearing...

The new KLF Book and I'm going to book a massage for myself. DS is 5 wks old and my neck and shoulders are aching.

Ooh, I’ve bought myself a cargo bike in the Black Friday sale but it won’t arrive til February. Also bought some Mama/Papa/Little Bear sweatshirts but I will at least wrap those up and save them for Christmas. Have ordered some new handmade mugs as we will be having guests and my cup collection was embarrassingly chipped and mismatched —first world problem— probably other stuff too

satsuki each year I send dh an email with links to the presents I want and he still gets it wrong (last year I asked for a specific perfume and he bought a completely different one. All he had to do was click on a link, add to basket and pay but no that didn't work). Plus He buys what he wants me to have not what I actually want. And even with a list he will only buy the things he thinks are a good idea, irrelevant to my feelings. So yes I buy my own presents cos at least I know I will get what I really want.
Family all give us joint couple presents which is usually vouchers so it doesn't affect them either

I haven’t that is up to OH and the kids

Two frying pans [go me!]
Some ballet pumps
3 x jumpers
Emma Bridgewater Noel platter

Oh I see what you mean. It is hard being disappointed especially if you try hard to make sure everyone else isn’t. My dh does find it hard but it’s getting better.

Even with my ds now, he’s only 6, but I take him out to choose things for his sister, and really make him think about what she would want, because he’s going to be someone’s partner one day and I think a lot of guys got let off the hook about such things when growing up.