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Husband let kids open my parcel - his Christmas present

19 replies

zoomer445 · 02/12/2017 19:07

I'm kind of glad it was his present and not the kids. He said he was in the kitchen when the postman came. I'm so mad. The parcel was either something for myself or something bought by me for him or the kids. It had my name on. I hardly ever leave him alone with the kids as it is!!! It was £30 aftershave so not his main present! 😡😡

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ICanTuckMyBoobsInMyPockets · 02/12/2017 19:11

Well it serves him right.

Hopefully he’ll think twice next time.

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zoomer445 · 02/12/2017 19:16

He won't lol he doesn't care.

I'm not blaming the kids either. He must have answered the door to the postman and I know they would assume it was a Christmas present for them so they wouldn't have opened it unless told too!!

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ColonelJackONeil · 02/12/2017 19:17

Maybe that should be his main present now?

Fluffysparks · 02/12/2017 19:20

Next time order a guidebook on how to maximise success on online dating websites or something, the prick.

NoelNiki · 02/12/2017 19:21

Send it back

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zoomer445 · 02/12/2017 19:24

I told him it wasn't wasn't for him lol it's the one he has though so he didn't believe me!!

I just can't get over the fact that it could have been a present for the kids!!

They have both said daddy opened it but he said they did.

Not sure what's worse.

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Fffion · 02/12/2017 19:39

You have to play the long game. In a lifelong marriage, presents are going to be found. It’s the giving that’s important and receiving at the working time doe ps not change this.

hereandnowtoday · 02/12/2017 22:39

Why do you hardly leave him alone with the kids? What's his contribution to Christmas?

DelphiniumBlue · 02/12/2017 22:48

Isn't the issue that your DH thinks it's ok to open your post, without asking you? Clearly he opened it, and not the kids. I'd hit the roof if anyone in my house opened my post.
Both your dc say it was him, and it's really unlikely they'd have the front to do that ( unless they were egged on by him).
I think you're treating it very lightly. Does he disrespect you in other ways?

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 02/12/2017 22:53

I'd send it back and then let him wonder who you gave it to à la 'Love Actually'. What a donkey.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 02/12/2017 22:55

"They have both said daddy opened it but he said they did." Hmm so he's opened his own gift and realised he was in the wrong and now blaming his DCs. What a prince.

EnidButton · 02/12/2017 23:56

I know this is the nice sparkly Christmas forum and everything but ...
I hardly ever leave him alone with the kids as it is!!!

You really need to give the reason for this some thought. Also, my guess is he^ opened it and is blaming his dc which is wrong on many levels. Lying, showing his dc that lying is ok, lying about them, getting them into trouble, accusing them of lying themselves, opening mail not addressed to him...It all seems like no big deal on the surface but just have a think about it.

EnidButton · 02/12/2017 23:58

I mean you need to have a think to yourself why it is you hardly ever leave his DC with him and is that reason something you find acceptable.

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zoomer445 · 03/12/2017 08:25

He works away Monday to Friday and often weeks / months at a time. I've only just gone back to work so I'm usually always home and I don't socialise much. He's fine to look after the kids he's just never really had too. I open all his post as it's mainly bills or household stuff and obviously if I left it for him it could take a while to be opened. He still shouldn't have done it I agree 😡

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NoelNiki · 03/12/2017 09:53

I never once had a Christmas when I didnt know what i was getting. We figured it out or saw it

The kids i babysat in my 20s cheerily told me that they knew where all the hiding places were and knew what they were getting.

You know it isnt a big deal.

apostropheuse · 03/12/2017 12:22

I would be absolutely furious about him blaming the children, if he is indeed lying - which it sounds like he is. What kind of adult blatantly lies and blames his own children? That's shocking, unless you think both your childten are telling lies. I would be more concerned about the lies than the gift.

Fffion · 03/12/2017 19:09

There are so many perfect women here that they never get anything wrong. Their only blemish is not being able to see the funny side of a situation, nor being able to forgive. And getting furious about trivial things.

hereitis · 03/12/2017 20:23

What if the docs had seen a £100 present from their Santa list, delivered to their mum? I can't see a funny side, it wasn't a hilarious jape or crazy accident, it was not giving a damn.

NeverTwerkNaked · 03/12/2017 20:28

He’s a total fool. Who on earth does that at this time of year?!

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