Gifts that are never acknowledged

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Definately delivered but not so much as a quick text of Thanks last Christmas.
Pondering to even bother this year.
What would you do ?

oldlaundbooth

FWIW I've NEVER had a gift off her, for me or my DC'S.

Doesn't your brother do presents for you, you being on his side of the family? I don't see why it's generally the woman who gets it in the neck when the male partner is just as capable.
I say this as someone who used to sort ALL family presents and send cards, despite working ft just like dh. And then I realised how stupid that was.

I'm not going to judge other peoples buying habits, as it seems my 'expectations of manners and 'doing the right thing' don't match many others in 2017.. but

What is it about buying Birthday & Christmas presents for people we never see or speak to ? immediate family or not?
Genuinely disgusted at those who receive gifts from Siblings yet never reciprocate..

I think if the presents are for children carry on. If not then stop.

My sister and dc are the same. We never see each other at Xmas or birthdays as we live at opposite ends of the country. I’ve NEVER received a thank you text or letter. Every single year I wait a few days then ask “did my parcel arrive” and then Sister will say “oh yes, thanks”.

Nephew is 22 and niece 19 now and more than capable of sending a text. I’ve decided I’m sending vouchers this year for their favourite clothes shops and they aren’t getting another present. I’m just sick to death of the rudeness. How long does it take to text a “thank you Auntie Lizzie”?

Fuckng rude, there is no excuse at all.

It is beyond rude to totally not acknowledge a gift/card etc somebody has made an effort to get to you. Especially if you have not seen them on the actual day its nice to let them know u recieved the gift and to thank them.
I feel the same alot at xmas and birthdays im single parent to one child and have cousins etc with up to 4 kids each we all live pretty close together im always the one rushing around on all there birthdays and at christmas making sure they all have cards and gifts etc and my birthday this year not even a txt my daughters party they didnt show up no explanation no tx didnt pop a card round in the following week etc. Cant lie its really annoyed me and its not just a one off. I was debating not bothering for xmas this year but for the first time in a while were having a family thing so everyone will be together on the same day. So i am getting gifts for each person as always and i know it sounds bad but i am going to use the day to judge how i will be on future occasions from now on. At the end of the day im one adult with one child buying for 2 adults and 4 kids and they feel no shame taking it no thankyous so thats money i could be putting towards my own childs life!xx

I'm afraid the serial thankless would be getting a card from the charity I donated their gift money too... There are literally thousands of fantastic charities that would be so grateful for a small percentage of what is wasted on a bunch of thankless, entitled distant fammo & offspring...

Betsy they sound dreadful!

If you wanted, you could have some real PA fun too....

Dipso? = Water Aid
Smoker = British Heart Foundation/Cancer Research
Glutton = Famine Releif
Mad Cat Lover - Local Dog Rescue
Entitled Yummy Mummy = Deprived Childrens Charity
Lazy adult = Donkey Sanctuary
Spoiled Children = Barnardos
Lazy Kids = disabled Childrens Charity
Old & rude? = Dementia Charity

Maybe it could provide an education to the over privileged and help them remember to be grateful for all they have.

I don't personally think you should refuse to buy any more gifts purely because you haven't been thanked. To me, that's saying I'm only buying you presents so I can get the praise to feel good

If you do something nice but unnecessary for your children or your DP, do you expect to be thanked? If, for example, you brought your partner tea in bed every Sunday and they never even acknowledged you when you set the cup down, would you not stop?

It’s exactly the same principle. Their thanks is not the only reason for doing nice things for people. But if it’s never, ever forthcoming, that can be enough reason to stop.

lizzie
Its all very strange there nice enough to talk to all live within walking distance etc and rare family occasions are always pleasant but when it comes to our birthdays etc nothing when its theres im always there card gift etc, a txt would be ok or just to show up to party ah gosh i dont know see what happens this xmas!!xx

Yes, do a review after this Xmas!

My mum used to buy for far too many people. As I got older, I realised that very few thanked her. I was annoyed about it and couldn't help point out how rude it was not to say thank you.
Nowadays, she doesn't buy for as many people and has a rule of 2 no thank yous and present buying stops.
As a result I try and thank people for any gifts myself or the children receive in a timely manner. I say try, but I only recently found a note from last Christmas that must have fallen down the back of the unit and never got posted.

I do wonder if the gifts get re-labelled and given to someone else or perhaps the children never get to know whom they were from.
Anyway , I'm going to send cards only next year. I'm abroad so this year's gifts are already in the post.