Do you buy a gift for ex (dc's dad) from the dc's?

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Or do you just let the dc's pick something small to give him?

My dc's are 11 and 13, I usually buy something small for them to give to him (he never takes them to buy me a gift). Ex is now with someone, the dc's get on well with her too so do I buy a tin of sweets or something from the dc's or should I just get the dc's to pick something?

What do other people do?

We get my dsd's mum a present from them, as its nice for them to give her a surprise. We've done things like canvas print of them, personalised mugs, etc. Usually something to do with the dsd's. Now she has a partner we get something for him too.

She has always sent something for dh and in recent years a gift for me, which has touched me beyond belief, I shed a few tears the first year. It was a lovely gesture of acceptance.

Yes, 15 y/o here and I still help her find a gift for her dad. He is both notoriously impossible to buy for, and an awesome present-giver though, hence why help needed. Exes new partner I figure not my problem! (as in, he can assist if requred)

I used to have two step daughters. Neither of their parents ever took them to buy me a present but I still have a little brooch made out of foam sheet and stick on gems that one of them made me stored lovingly in my jewellery box!
In an ideal world I think it would be normal to want to teach your children to show appreciation for an adult in their life who cares for them, it can only help build their relationship and ultimately that is a good thing for your children.
We don’t live in an ideal world but I think that you should do it if it feels right to you.

I do take my DC (10 and 7) to choose something for their dad, usually just a little thing. He similarly takes the kids shopping for me.

I don't take the kids shopping for my Ex's girlfriend, he does that with the kids. That said, if the kids asked me to I would. She's lovely and I like the kids to feel we all get along

Thank you, I get on with his new partner and I get along with him (though sometimes he blanks me), for my birthday they gave me a bottle of wine even though ex knows I don't drink wine, last Christmas he didn't take the dd's to get me a gift ( my mum took them to get me something ) so I'm not expecting anything. I might just give the dc's some money and let them chose something.

I just let DS pick something out for his Dad, I wouldn't send a present from me.

Depends on the relationship I think. My ex doesn’t see my dc do they have decided to stop giving him anything. They are old enough to choose. When they were younger I did take them shopping to get him something (never good enough of course) but he has never made sure that they have something to give me.

I let DS choose something for his dad for birthday, Father's Day and Christmas. It used to be a small, token thing to teach DS about the importance of giving etc etc but as DS has got older and I've softened a bit, I let him choose something a bit nicer and guide him towards something I think exP will genuinely like.
I haven't softened enough to get anything for exP's partner (who was the OW) though...

* In an ideal world I think it would be normal to want to teach your children to show appreciation for an adult in their life*

^well said, it takes quite a big person to buy gifts for the ex & their partner, but a really great lesson to teach the kids.