My dh isn't here for christmas!

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LegoShmego · 15/09/2017 21:29

He works offshore. We have 2dc who will be aged 8 & 4 at Christmas, this will be the 1st time that his rota has fallen over christmas since the dc have been born

Is it wrong that I want to spend it at home with dc alone?!..... We don't live near family but both sets of gps have space if we went to stay there. But tbh, I love pil but I do find spending time with them quite hard work and very tiring so i'd rather not stay there although I know the kids would love it as they'd be so so spoilt!
My dp would also love to have us but it's a bit of a squeeze at hers and not really much room to breathe.

I want to be at home, going for a lovely walk and then sticking pjs on & pigging out. Without having to be polite to anyone.... Basically, what I'd normally do when dh is here!

Is it a bit sad to mot spend it with any other adults?

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 15/09/2017 21:29

Could you invite your parents or his to your house for Christmas day?

liquidrevolution · 15/09/2017 21:30

Can you invite your DPs to yours?

dippydeedoo · 15/09/2017 21:30

No I think it's a fab way to have a lovely Christmas time spent with your dc in their home.

liquidrevolution · 15/09/2017 21:33

Ah just read the rest of your post for some reason a stupid advert covered the last bit.

YAnbu. Get some ready prepped food a d enjoy yourself. Perhaps break up the time by going for a walk with friends who have kids. I personally would love it.

Spam88 · 15/09/2017 21:34

You've been lucky to have him home for so many christmasses ☺️ my DH works offshore as well, it's our first Christmas with our little one so fingers crossed he'll be home this year!

Definitely nothing wrong with spending it at home and doing what you'd normally do on Christmas Day. I'm sure the kids like their Christmas Day routine as well. Plenty of other days over the festive period to see grandparents.

elQuintoConyo · 15/09/2017 21:38

PJs and pigging out sounds great!

Remember that the Christmas Season is more than just 25th December. Can grandparents share in the run-up? Post Christmas panto?

I remember when my dad was working on Christmas day we did big lunch and presents on 1st Jan an exact week later - felt very smug eating our lovely food and unwrapping presents when everyone else was taking down their decorations. Smug is good

Is that an option?

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LegoShmego · 15/09/2017 22:16

Actually, the more I think about it the more I like the idea of staying at home.
i don't think my dp would be keen on visiting as they're pretty active and do many group activities which involve christmas doos!
My pil would prefer for us to go to them too as our house is too small, their's is much bigger and also their other gc is just down the road. It would be perfect for them for us to spend it with them, but I don't think I can face it 😫

Plus I have always been keen on the dc waking up in their own bed on christmas morning.

Yes liquid I'm already thinking about what food to get in and whether to scrap doing a roast and just have easy food that the kids will love!
Dp will be back before new year (although next year he'll be away for the whole festive season! ), so like you say elquinto we will definately be celebrating chrismas properly with dp a few days later. I like the idea of being a lottle smug whislt everyone else is going through post christmas blues!

spam we have been lucky! Previous to dc I had never spent a christmas with dh (6yrs) as he's always been at work. But he has missed both dc birthdays since their births

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