Have I been thoughtless here

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We are exchanging gifts with friends tomorrow. They have 2 sons aged 14 months and 3 years. I am suddenly very aware that the toddlers gift is a LOT bigger than the three year olds.
Is this likely to cause problems with the 3yo being upset or am I overthinking! I didnt consider it when I bought them but I know how tricky kids can be at 3.

That should be ? Not !

I don't think my ds would have noticed at 3. I would be tempted to hand him his first then he will barely notice the other is larger!

Presume they are roughly the same value?

Wouldn't bother my nearly three year old

Bigger? Or more expensive?

Bigger or better?

No, don't worry about it. Mine have a 2 year age gap and have never noticed size or value, a gift is a gift, they have never compared to each other's from any particular person.

Bigger but of exactly the same value.
If not thought about it until I realised how big it was wrapped.
Think a foot high in comparison to 5 inches.

Very different gifts but not 'better' I don't think.

Sounds absolutely fine!

Have you got a spare washing machine box hanging around?

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Some will notice & care, some will notice & not care. Very few will not notice. I'd try to find a bigger box to put it inside.

Just emphasise that the bigger sized one is 'a baby toy' and the 3 yr old will be ok with it.

Washing machine box is a cracking idea but we don't have anything like that.
I've just found another small gift that the 3yo can have so that he's got two even if his brothers is bigger.
Hopefully that will compensate.

Don't really want to say invade their mum is on here and it outs me.

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Can't you put it in one of those gift bags in the absence of a washing machine box?

You are over thinking, and if the 3 year old does notice it's a good life lesson so don't sweat it.

We had this one year, when my daughter received a tea set and my son a football from my cousin. For some reason his face crumpled and tears started when he received his gift. Quick as flash my cousin said "oh why don't you swop. Of course as soon as he opened the gift, he wanted to swop back. His 1 year old sister did not care. It was very out of character for him. I am guessing tiredness and over excitement played a part.

pith that's a great way to deal with any problems.

cheeky I agree that it's a useful life lesson for an older child but think that three is a bit young to really understand.

Luckily it didn't matter. 3yo was just excited that his had ribbon on it and his brothers didn't. Both were very pleased with their gifts. Thank goodness.

The only time we had issues with my nieces was when one had less than the other; actual size didn't matter.
It was a good lesson to learn prior to having our own DC - even now, my eldest is 15, they have the same number of presents.