Christmas Presents DM and DMIL

[Fiddlefaddle2303]

Advice please.

For the first time we have both sets of GP coming for Christmas.....

Now heres the thing, DH and I approach Christmas very differently, we also have seperate bank accounts, he buys the presents for his side and buy for mine.

For my side of the family, I have an agreement with my DS's that we will only buy presents for kids and GPs. So for my DM I always buy 1 main present and then 5 or 6 'stocking fillers'.... This has been the case for years.... similarly DP will always buy us main present then a number of stocking fillers (its what we have always done)......

DH family on the other hand buy presents for all family including long lost DA&U he hasnt seen for a few years, Cousins etc. and so he buys his DP 1 present, no silly stocking fillers.

So I have just been wrapping and am a bit worried that on Christmas Day, my DM&D are going to have a pile, whilst DMIL/PIL will just have a few.

I have doubled up and bought the same presents for them from the GC....

But should i also now do stocking fillers for the in laws?

Sorry third world issue i know but just wanted some opinion...

What does your husband think? If he feels that his parents should have an equal pile (and maybe he hasn't realised yet that they wont) maybe he'd like to fix it?

I have a very similar issue as we are spending Christmas with both sets of parents for the first time & in my family we spend about £20pp and in DH's it is more like £200. Obviously this means I receive way more from MIL than DH receives from my mum.
No advice, just understanding.
I think it's a first world problem rather than a third world one

If the presents are from you and DH jointly, then I'd say they should be roughly the same value.

But if they are clearly just from you to your parents and DH to his parents then I'd point out the difference to DH and if he wants to add more for his parents he can.