AIBU to not buy what FIL asked for?

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Budget for presents for people other than my own children is about a tenner.

FIL saw my new Roberts radio and said "oh you can get me one of those for Xmas".
Aside from the bloody cheek, it's above budget (analogue one so not hugely expensive but still...). WWYD? Get what he asked for or something else?

How much is it?
How generous to you (in terms of both time and money) is FIL?
Can you actually afford it without going into debt?
What does your DH think?

No, you aren't BU at all! Although it might have been better to say at the time 'actually FIL, those are pretty expensive'. Can you get him a John Lewis voucher or something to contribute to him buying his own?

Are there other family members you can club together with to get it for him? Otherwise stick to your budget, you can't spend a tenner on everyone else and significantly more on just him.

How much is it?

Get him something he wants and asked for . The problem with buying gifts for a tenner is that if something only costs a tenner most people will have just brought it themsealves in the year.

How much is the radio?

I don't think it was necessarily a cheeky thing to say - lots of people like ideas from relatives for presents so maybe he was trying to be helpful.
YADNBU not to spend more than your budget though, I like Fenella's idea of getting a voucher towards it.

Around £20.
He can be very generous with my boys or he can forget birthdays entirely!
No DH - still get on well with FIL though - ex FIL I guess.

I already am in debt (hideous divorce) but am using vouchers kindly given to me as a present on Xmas this year.

How are you financially and what does he spend on your family?

£10 isn't much - I do totally understand why you set a budget, but if he's proportionatelly spending a lot more and you can afford it then I'd just buy it.

If you're in debt from the divorce already then just don't do it. Pic of the grandkids should suffice!

Sorry - cross posted.

You're in debt. Stick to your budget, but just explain to him why.
I wouldnt say it's really cheeky of him though as he probably hasn't realised its more than you'd normally spend.

Maybe he was unaware of the cost?

I agree with a PP, arrange to get him one but pay for it by clubbing together with another relative.

How much debt are we talking about? Will £10 added to the debt be life changing? Could you cut back somewhere else? Should you be buying radios for yourself if your in debt ?

how much is it? if my dad asked for something i would get it, if i could afford it.

For £20 I would probably get it to keep the peace.

Can you not ask exdp to chip in? And have it as a gift from the kids?

Thanks for the thoughts. I'll have a think and talk to his sis.