Aargh.
I love Christmas- all the planning, cooking etc- and I make a big effort planning everything. As my parents are too old and my sister lives in a small flat, I always end up hosting, which I am happy to do.
So, I've carefully planned my menu, done my online shopping etc. Then today I got an email from my flaky sister saying, "I'm going to cook some surprise stuff!!"
I really, really don't want her to do this. The one year she did, she took over the whole kitchen making a weird canape, used every pan etc, meaning that I had no space to cook the lunch. It was incredibly annoying. I've planned the menu, ordered everything carefully etc- I really don't want her just to turn up, use all my ingredients, fuck my kitchen up then swan off (can you tell there is some history here?)
However, I know I am being a complete control freak about it. It's nice that she's offering to do something but I just wish that either she'd offer to do something actually helpful eg peel potatoes, not something that's going to be an absolute PITA, and fuck up all my careful plans. But it's her Christmas too blah blah blah, why shouldn't she make something? But I just know how it will be and it will be a complete stress...gargh.
I need to chill the fuck out, I know. Both my sis and I are massive anxiety-heads, although in me it takes the form of meticulous planning while in her it takes the form of no planning, bursting into tears, drinking half a bottle of vodka then getting someone else to clear everything up. FFS.