Does anyone else's DP/DH go overboard on gifts?

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As mine does and I always feel bad on Christmas Day when he's spent loads and I can't do the same. Every year I ask him to stick to a budget (of around £100) but he spends 3/4 times that.
It's really lovely of him but I feel awful (even more so when opening gifts in front of family) and I just can't afford to spend as much as he does .

I'm guilty of going overboard..and I can tell you he is probablyour not bothered and probably enjoys seeing the joy on your face.
I know I love buying people presents and I'm not terribly fussed about how much someone spends on me..it's much more about the effort not the cost and tbh I'm not that fussed about presents. Perhaps he is the same and gets much more of a buzz buying for others than receiving.

DSDad used to do this for DM, I always got the impression she was faintly embarrassed by it TBH (she often had more gifts than only child/ grandchild DS)
He died recently so this Christmas will be very different

My DH does this; I'm left with a pile of stuff long after everyone else has run out of presents to open. It is embarrassing, and unnecessary. Last year he bought me THREE different perfumes. (I suppose his thinking is that I'm bound to like at least one of them!).

I've tried to tell him not to but I think he panics when he goes shopping and just buys more and more stuff. I'm going to try again this year. ONE perfume. ONE book. ONE CD. ONE pair of earrings.

It sounds really ungrateful, and he is so generous, but it does make me feel very uncomfortable.

DH does this (but then he does it with the DC too, he just loves buying gifts - last year I had to make him hold back a good portion of the presents until their birthdays). It was particularly hard when I was a student and didn't feel I could spend "family money" on presents (I could have, I just didn't feel I could).

This year things are tight so we've agreed on a budget. I'm actually having a lot of fun with it, DH will announce from behind his laptop "I've figured out what I'm getting you", and I'll ask him is it in the budget. His face is usually a picture )

My partner used to be like this but he is better as staying at least near our budget now.

I think he finally realised that it made me feel bad for him to not have as much to open as I did! Also, I think once he had stuck to the budget once, he saw that I was delighted with the gifts I'd received because they were more thoughtful. Less of a scattergun approach!

This is my dh all over. I find it a bit embarrasing if i'm honest. he loves xmas, whereas I am definately more of a birthday girl and go more to town then.

My exdh was more like me and after 15 years of marriage we were at the point when we just didn't bother buying each other anything just to save the hassle.

I always go to tow town on dh's birthday but like to stick to £100 on him for xmas as I have more family to buy for then him. he easily spends £500 -£1000 on me though. i don't even really like xmas that much becasue of the materialistic bit of it, but he gets so much pleasure in gift shopping.

Last year I got him a wallet (nice designer one) and some posh pj's and a few stocking fillers from the kids.

I got new dressing gown (silky and designer). Bottle of posh champagne, perfume, diamond earrings, designer jacket, crystal decanter plus stocking fillers.