AIBU present limit?

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So it is getting increasingly closer to Christmas now and as always the grandparents are asking what the children want and what they have already got.

My dm has finished all of her christmas shopping early this year as she has very long working hours in a job she has just started. She has had a bit of a windfall recently and has decided to spend most of it on our dcs for christmas now here's the tricky part.

My husband thinks that we should put a limit on how many presents people but for them to 3 each. I on the other hand think this is being absolutely ridiculous and if people want to but them 100 presents that's fine by me.

Who is being unreasonable here?

Can't ever imagine buying a car seat for Christmas really, it's supposed to be exciting, can't imagine any child being thrilled unwrapping something like that! I always thing stuff like that is stuff you just buy to buy. Only my opinion obviously!!

Chelazla I feel the same about clothing bought as gifts for children, unless it's something like a football kit or dressing up stuff. I can't understand why people bulk up present piles with underwear or pyjamas.
I do buy clothes as gifts for my adult children, but would never have given them clothes (that I would have bought anyway) and called them presents when they were little.

I have this with both sets of GPs, one will buy better quality than the other but they will each buy 4+ presents for my elder DD (DD2 not experienced it yet). Sometimes my mum has bought 7/8 presents and it's too many. That's about as many as we would buy and I do think bulk of presents should come from the parents, Santa, Whatever.
I don't think you should set a limit - she'll only ignore it anyway if she's like mine - but I do get your husband's sentiment. Difficult one!

We have a very large family, with three generations of grandparents on my ohs side and 2 generations of grandparents on mine plus aunties uncles and godparents. So rather than saying "you can only buy one present." We set a limit of how much to spend i.e. £20-50 depending on who it is and their financial situation. We get ignored and people tend to overspend by a few pounds. Nothing major though. It does help cut down on my mother and mother in law competing with each other on "I'm the better granny"
I think you could set a limit like that but I also think people will spend what they are going to spend and buy as much or as little as they want to. Regardless of what boundaries you set

For me it's less about the number of gifts or their price, and more about the thought and intention behind them. I find it really sad seeing kids showered with gifts, ripping through the paper without stopping to really think about what they've received from who and appreciate how lucky they are. Also find it sad when people choose to shower kids with gifts in an effort to buy affection rather than actually building a relationship through doing things together. For me, it's not about the number of gifts or their financial value. It's the love and gratitude that's goes into the thinking, choosing / making, giving and the receiving.