I have been with my other half for almost 8 years. I get along well with his family and feel they are my own now aswell. We've spent a couple of Christmases and MIL's house and this year I'd like to stay at home.
But that's not the problem. This year one of the in laws suggested we do Secret Santa. Not because money is a problem for any of them {it really isn't} but so our gifts can be "better" if we spend more money on just one person. It found this quite offensive because me and my OH don't earn a lot of money, but are gifts are always thoughtful and never "shitty". And I've always been a traditionalist and like putting thought into what I buy for others. I don't come from a family with money but we all like to buy small but meaningful gifts at Christmas because it's the only time of the year we get to do it.
Now I know they say Christmas isn't just about presents, but to many it's an important part of it. I also feel pressured into saying yes, and I KNOW the in laws would have a lot to say if I said I wasn't taking part {because I seem to be the only one at the minute unhappy with this} and I also think my OH wants to do it although he was say. It's the usual "whatever you want to do".
AIBU or selfish to think this way? Should I just agree with what they want? Or should I speak my mind and be the hero to my own Christmas? Please help, it's so frustrating and really stressing me out! 