Gonna tell DH to shove christmas up his arse in a min

[dingdongmerRADLEYonhigh]

So bloody angry, i've spent ages thinking what to do and sorting things out for christmas day, but, i can see me telling dh to stuff it up his arse soon.

Occasionally I like to make really rich unhealthy mash (with double cream, butter, salt and pepper in), the kids and I love it, but,

DH won't eat it, i've to make some separate with no cream or butter in.

DH has said that he will NOT have any of the fresh stock gravy, but is insisting on coming in the kitchen himself and making himself some bisto.

BUT I knowm if he comes in the kitchen he will start taking over.

AND

Wait for it

He will want his yorkshire puddings on a separate plate to everything else so will insist on a clean plate.

THEN, he will want his mash and mushy peas on one plate and his turkey on the other, and will mash all his peas and mash up with gravy, which ends up looking like a big pile of snot.

He won't have a glass of bubbly with everyone else (DC are having sparkling flavoured water), but will insist on having a pint of bitter.

He is on nights tonight and just come downstairs from a 1 1/2 hour bath and started chuntering and complaining because he can't get to the cooker for prepared veg etc, i said to him 'move em to the breakfast bar' and he walked off muttering under his breath.

I sometimes do not know why i bother.

sometimes they are hundred times worse than the children..fussy or what...teel him to keep his butt tightly clenched or else christmas may be coming via the backdoor!

i seriously honestly would not make him any dinner. Leave some 'acceptable' sandwich things in the fridge. Don't tell him you are doing this until you dish up, or he will come aand get in your way.

That is a disgusting way to behave at the dinner table, I would not allow my 3 year old to ct like that. He sounds like a brat.

He lived at home and his mum would always pander to him.

I'm dreading tomorrow to be honest, I KNOW he will start interferring in the kitchen.

Radley, it sounds like he is inventing ways to try and wind you up, truly it does . I am very sorry he is going out of his way to spoil it for you like this!!

I would dish up for you and the kids, then tell him to sort his own out as he likes it. However hard you try, whatever you do, he will find fault. So remove the responsibility from your shoulders and put it firmly on his.

(((((((have a hug)))))))))

Thanks very much miao, we are having friends over too, and they will eat what they are given.

Hope you're feeling better soon.

Stop dreading it, that's silly. You are not responsible for his actions. Let him interfere as much s he wants, and when he has screwed it up thoroughly, tell all his relatives what he has done.

He sounds utterly pathetic. I'd go and spend Christmas elsewhere, personally.

Thanks Radders - nausea starting to lift - yay!!

I'm a bit fed up.

Dp at work until 6.30 tonight, and working 9 til 4 tomorrow.

Mum, bro and sis were coming round at 11 am for breakfast, but have decided they aren't coming until 1. Which mum told me at 2pm today. So I have a frisge full of cooked breakfast ingredients, and nobody to cook a breakfast for but myself, and nobody to watch the kids while I do it. So sod it, I shan't bother.

I know it's a tiny thing in the grand scheme of things, but I'm peeved all the saame. I can't be arsed to cook a meal for me and ds1 tonight, so I think we will have boiled eggs and Quality street./

Can you not have the breaky stuff for dinner colditz?

Sorry to hear your day has gone tits up colditz.

I hate it when people let you down at the last minute.

Do you want to join me in a glass of taboo and lemondade?

Poor you. Sad thing is that we love the idiosyncracies of people we love and yet those same things irritate us hugely when we don't feel the same about that person.

Perhaps just go and sit down and let him cook.

Families - who'd have them!

Good grief! Your dh's table manners/eating behaviour wouldn't be acceptable for a 4 year old let alone a grown man! The only bit I can possibly understand is not wanting gravy made with stock but the rest sounds like pedantry gone mad. I would treat him exactly the same as the other adults at the table. One plate only!

Blimey, how old's he?

Oh FFS ..... how bloody rude and brattish.

As if Christmas cooks don't already have enough to do without pandering to the intricate demands of some spoilt giant brat who wants things done "his" way.

I think Colditz had the right suggestion. Don't tell him what you're doing but basically, he should like it or lump it. Or tell him to make up "his" bloody gravy tonight (so he's not in the way tomorrow) and stick it in a thermos flask for tomorrow !

Would he behave as rudely at someone else's house if he went there for dinner ?

I'll bet he's a real laugh to go out with for a meal. Not. How tedious. And childish.

i have one of those, i sympathise

I blame his mother, he was obviously allowed to be fussy.

interesting how several people blame his mother for his brattish and juvenile behaviour, when in fact he is now an adult and ought to take responsibility for his own behaviour...

I blame his father for offering him a role model of shiteness.

I think Xenia could be onto something. Can you let him cook tomorrow instead? You could stay well out of the kitchen and have fun with your babies while sipping vino instead. Clearly he will be likely to cook shite but you can just supplement with liqueur chocolates and crisps and tell him it's lovely. You will have a chance to relax and he'll be able to pander to his weird food fetishes and, though no long term solutions will be in place, some of the tension may flee from the day, hopefully.

I'm trying a different tack with my dh this year, he just cannot help being a grumpy arse sometimes, always moaning, his glass is defintaley half empty IYKWIM!
So this year, instead of biting I am smiling sweetly and giving him extra hugs and kisses. It's completeley throwing him

What a good idea NORTHERNER - 'throw him by smilling sweetly' my DH is being so negative and miserable because he's had to work today and yesterday, keeps telling me he's knackered etc... Its really winding me up - especially as the Dc's are so happy and excited about Christmas... I feel like blowing up at him for being such a moany git but maybe I should try your approach!