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What Christmas decorations will you have if you have a toddler?! No tree?

56 replies

PurpleTreeFrog · 24/11/2015 12:11

I have an active, curious and "naughty" 18 month old. Naughty in the sense that there's nothing he finds more hilarious than testing my boundaries by touching and pushing all the things in the house he's not supposed to touch.

I have basically got to the point now where our living room is devoid of anything he can break or hurt himself on. However, what about Christmas?!

We love a big, real tree with lovely decorations. But he would just wreck it, I'm sure. The glass baubles would be especially dangerous... Should we just not bother with a tree this year? Or get a tiny one and put it on a table?

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kiwidreamer · 24/11/2015 20:05

We did the travel cot thing when DS was 17mths, worked well only needed it the one year, DD was not overly bothered at same age. We pretty much just have felt / non breakable decorations anyhow.

PinkParsnips · 24/11/2015 20:10

DD was 13 months last Christmas and really didn't bother with the tree at all much to my surprise, I just made sure all the decorations at the bottom were the soft felt type and best ornaments at the top.

peterpeterpumpkineater · 24/11/2015 20:15

We have a big real tree and non - glass decorations and it's never been a problem. Of course they meddled at first but real trees can be kind of prickly so i think that puts them off a little bit.

In fact it was our cat that was the main problem not the toddlers!

PurpleTreeFrog · 24/11/2015 20:38

You tell them not to touch, you reinforce if they attempt to touch, they learn not to touch.

Ha ha, very funny. I've never met a 1 year old who has learnt not to touch forbidden things simply as a result of being told not to... What kind of reinforcement would be effective on an 18 month old anyway?!

Honestly, not leaving dangerous/fragile objects in their reach is so much easier than constant "reinforcement"...

I think I'm going to take the cornering it off suggestion. Think I might be able to make it work if we re-jig the living room slightly. Either that or a tiny £10 real tree on a table.

Can't believe I bought a bunch of glass baubles last year though when DS was only 6 months old and only crawling... They weren't expensive, but still, what was I thinking?!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/11/2015 21:03

He will grow out of this phase, and you will have years of Christmas trees to decorate, once you know they won't touch them.

Then, of course, you get the stage where they want to help you decorate, and you get 50% of your decorations on 3 of the branches, and the rest of the tree looking a bit sad and forlorn - and the less said about tinsel distribution, the better! But you can sneakily rearrange things once they go to bed - I did, and mine never noticed.

I love getting out the decorations each year - I add a few new ones, and I love the collection that has built up over the years, and the memories attached.

toddlerwrangling · 24/11/2015 23:21

Har, rainbowunicorn, you clearly have not had a "spirited" toddler :p DD is so persistent that nothing, absolutely nothing, reinforces not touching something she wants to touch. I could tell her every minute of the day not to and she would still try. I'm sure this will be a very useful character trait in later life (she's very resilient), but in toddlerhood it is fantastically annoying Grin

OP I have a high energy toddler too and she was already walking for her first proper Christmas (she'll be 3 this year), so we have never been able to trust her not to touch things. What we do is have a smallish but bushy real tree in a pot, on top of a small table, and we have all-unbreakable tree decs. She does take them off (typically to run around the room wearing them as "bracelets", ho hum), but she can't do much to them.

It's a shame as I have a huge pre-DC collection of antique glass baubles and other exquisite and lovingly collected choking hazards :p but they are just having to stay in their boxes for a few years. We decided to go Scandi red and white and I got a lot of cheap red, white and neutral felt and fabric decorations and wooden hearts and so on in the sales, gingham stuffed hearts and so on. Also those Livingly Danish paper decorations which often get reduced massively in the John Lewis sale after Christmas. They are actually v pretty and though I'm sure DD is going to squash a few they won't hurt her! Ikea also normally do some Scandi-looking straw decorations which we have a few of. It all looks very cute, in fact, and though I feel rather wistful about my vintage mercury glass baubles in their boxes the Scandi look is also nice and gives a bit of rustic chic.

As well as these we also have some of the Livingly paper decs hung up in the windows and around the living room - they do nice mobiles.

I also gave up having candles, which I used to love, as they are not worth the worry (and I don't trust my sleep-deprived self not to forget I've left one burning!) but on the mantlepiece we have paper house lanterns which are easy to draw yourself and stick together to make out of ordinary paper, with LED battery tea lights inside.

I got some paper chain kits cheap from Cox and Cox in last year's January sale so I'll be making them with DD this year.

I was wondering the other day what my parents did when we were kids, and in fact they just went crazy on the 70s/80s tinsel, plastic shiny baubles and tartan bow trend so they didn't have anything really breakable when we were small either. (Not like my grandma who had those spiral glass 50s-style ones which were prone to smashing!)

I really covet this year's trend of glass baubles with mini snow scenes inside, they're gorgeous, but DD really isn't ready for the temptation/accident potential. I think I'll have to buy some and stash them for a few years' time!

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 24/11/2015 23:35

We have a big (artificial) tree, about 6'6" I think. DD really found it a great motivation to learn to crawl (around 6 months), the next year she pulled it over while DH & I were out of the room for 1.7 seconds. Thankfully it didn't fall on her, & was completely undecorated at the time! But, she didn't do it again... and she remembered the next year "tree go crash" so it obviously made a big impression! Grin

Only use unbreakable decorations. Plastic, wood, acrylic, polystyrene covered with ribbon. We found anything that could be used as a rope (tinsel, chain of bells etc) to be a bad idea as DD tries to take things off to inspect them. We have lots of beautiful glass decorations, they are staying packed away until DD & any other children are at least 6.

Anyway, once your DCs start school, you'll have lots of charming paper decorations covered in lurid glitter & paint. That's something to really look forward to!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 24/11/2015 23:51

Possibly apt?

ApplesTheHare · 25/11/2015 00:03

I was just wondering what people with 'spirited' toddlers do about a tree at Christmas. DD's 14 months, fantastically mobile and utterly determined to explore anything that might vaguely resemble a hazard. Even MIL who started off doggedly teaching her not to touch stuff rather than baby proofing has given in and just moved dangerous items out of reach bemoaning the fact she's never met such a stubborn child Grin

TelephoneIgnoringMachine · 25/11/2015 00:07

SDTG - yes! Grin

toddlerwrangling · 25/11/2015 11:04

And to be honest, for even those with biddable toddlers, having a tree covered in lots of attractive and shiny highly breakable choking hazards right in your living room for several weeks isn't the most sensible thing - before they're about 4 or 5 you really can't predict completely what they are going to do, even if they are normally very obedient. Best to have unbreakable and safer decs for a while anyway.

jorahmormont · 25/11/2015 11:07

We've got a 20 month old and are going for a small artificial tree on a table faaaar away from little hands this year!

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2015 11:35

My main worry now is the dogs! I would love to go all Nigella, and put home made, iced gingerbread stars on my tree, but my dogs (lab and lab-pointer cross) would see that as an all-they-can-eat buffet, and it would be empty and on the floor before I had left the room!

Pengweng · 25/11/2015 12:11

We have a small tree (5 ft i think) that we put on a table and cable tie it down so the DTs can't tip it on themselves. I made/bought a load of felt ornaments too and put those around the bottom so that they could take them off and put them back on again. As long as it is secure and no breakables in reach then it should be fine.

NinjaLeprechaun · 25/11/2015 14:35

"I would love to go all Nigella, and put home made, iced gingerbread stars on my tree, but my dogs (lab and lab-pointer cross) would see that as an all-they-can-eat buffet,"
We had a Great Dane who did this one year. She didn't knock over the tree, but when we got up in the morning the bottom two-thirds of it was bare except for lights and the hooks the ornaments had been hung from. It was a very sneaky precision operation from a very large dog.

Notso · 25/11/2015 14:55

Even when spirited DC3 and 4 were just 2 years and 8 months then just 3 years and 20 months we had a tree. Yeah some baubles got pulled off and it fell over once but meh. In the grand scheme of things who cares.
I've probably smashed more things myself taking them on and off the tree.

notenidskitchen · 25/11/2015 15:15

This is actually a really good point. My DS is two and as yours is, super curious and will not doubt trash the tree or push it so it will collapse on him.

Because you've said it, I don't think I'll bother with a tree - might just decorate with tinsel etc, rather than the actual tree plus it saves me the huge hassle of putting the damn thing up and down

notenidskitchen · 25/11/2015 15:17

If you tell DS not to touch something he makes it his ambition in life to touch it.

Might have to start using reverse psychology...

PurpleTreeFrog · 25/11/2015 15:42

notenidskitchen Yes, mine too. In fact, sometimes when he's doing something naughty I just look away and ignore it and silently pray he gets bored and stops before the situation escalates...

Because I know that the second I say "No! Don't touch that!" he will do a little excited happy stomping dance, laugh manically, and triple his efforts to break whatever object he's messing with...

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megletthesecond · 25/11/2015 15:48

I bought a cheap, smaller tree and decorated with tinsel and plastic baubles when mine were toddlers. Safer and less stress.

snowgirl1 · 25/11/2015 16:22

Real tree with plastic, tin, felt and wooden decorations here. To be honest, I'm amazed DD didn't open any of the presents - she was definitely very interested in them.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 25/11/2015 16:29

How about a tree, firmly tied to a hook on the wall, so it can't be pulled over, and unbreakable decorations (wood, felt, knitted, plastic)? Perhaps put the lovely glass decorations up high on the tree, out of reach?

FixItUpChappie · 25/11/2015 19:21

At that age with DS1 we put the tree behind the couch. With DS2 I think we just got on with it and supervised - was okay.

BasinHaircut · 25/11/2015 19:34

DS is 2.4 and I'm undecided on whether I'll bother with a tree. Didn't last year as it wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes.

At the moment we don't have plaster on all some of the walls or anything on the floor so depending on how close before Xmas those things get done I might not bother again this year. DS won't give a shite.

StayWithMe · 25/11/2015 19:46

It's easy to make a wall tree. If it's one of the trees that you hang/attach the branches on, you only put the branches on one side of it then you tie a ribbon to the top of it to attach it to the wall hook. Cut out a bucket/present shape, cover with Xmas paper and attach it to the bottom of the tree. The only thing you have to worry about is the lighting wire hanging down.