What to buy for someone's last Christmas?

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Mil is very well at the moment but has been told she has less than 6 months to live.

She doesn't want anything for Christmas but me and dh would like to make her up a hamper of goodies.

She is also currently not eating sugar or drinking alcohol as she believes these feed the cancer. She is also very trendy and doesn't appreciate "old lady" gifts.

So far On the list I have
sented candle
hand cream
a picture of the grandkids

any other suggestions or inspiration welcome

Also, when DSIL was in the hospice, the hand-drawn picture by DS (her only nephew/niece, she had no kids/partner) and a framed photo of him for auntie bragging took pride of place.

Some lovely ideas.

re food gifts - I'd see how her appetite is closer to the time. She might get upset and frustrated if she has to waste things that you've lovingly bought.

Very best wishes. I hope you all have a good day.

Some Christian churches do prayer blankets, they are beautifully knitted and blessed.

Otherwise the feeling of silk Panamas or a light cashmere blanket towards the end would be really nice. Fresh flowers each week or a really good planter.

Tickets to opera, ballet or a show

I'm sorry you're going through this time, it's so very very hard

Not for everyone but my mum was ill last year and I got her this from dd

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1907048464?psc=1&redirect=true&ref_=oh_aui_detailpage_o03_s00

My mum filled in one of those Bacony. She died when I was pregnant with her first grandchild. DD loves it. I still can't even look at it, it's been 12 years. Sorry your family are facing this OP.

"We respect that you've asked for nothing this Xmas. Please will you allow us to treat you to a day out?"

Are there any savoury nibbles she likes, something like cheese straws, nice nuts or crisps or a nice coffee/tea? I know you're doing it for her, but if money permits, the offer of a day trip out (her choice) or meal in January. That way she can enjoy going somewhere she chooses and you'll all have lovely memories of the day she enjoyed.

This thread has had me in tears, so sorry you're all going through this / sorry for your losses

Some beautiful ideas here

for you

Take her for a lovely meal in the run-up to Christmas, somewhere really festive with an open fire and beautiful real tree and crackers. Just some extra special time with her family, soaking up the excitement and Christmas spirit.

So sorry to everyone who has been in this position.

There are some lovely ideas here. We didn't know that it was my mother's last Christmas (neither did she) so I wish we'd had the chance to do things like this.

a scrap book full of memories. photos, pictures by the kids, stories of memories. if your dh has other siblings and there are other grandkids then join up together to make it.
my cousins and I made one for my nan for her 80th birthday as she also refuses gifts, and I know it really touched her and she loved it.

Such a difficult situation for you all

How about a gift for you all? A dear friend in this situation was delighted when the family organised a family photograph with her included before her treatment really started to take its toll. You can go the professional route or just organise something at home but if she is still "herself" you may all cherish having a lovely photograph of you all together.