done to death but how do I know if they believe?

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DS1 and 2 are 11 and 9, I think that DS2 is a FC believer but I'm not sure about DS1.

I don't want to out right ask and have him question why I'm asking and I don't know if I should tell him the truth, he's the type that would let slip to his siblings when he's in a bad mood
He's still at primary school (yr 6) and I have no clue if he just goes along with it I. Hope
Of getting more pressies or if he genuinely believes?!
Any advice?

Turnoff- sounds like your dds are lucky to hVe their grandma- when were you planning on telling her??

About Santa or sex?

My sister broke it to her DD last year in a 'sit down and let's have a chat' kind of way and I didn't know if that was the done thing (hence starting this thread) my Mum passed away before I could gain all this info from her!
My sister broke the news and then Salome people are magic makers and some are magic takers and got her DD on board with becoming a magic maker for her little sister who is still quite young.
I think that's a nice idea but my DS has for, of being a bit spiteful to his brother when he's in a bad mood and I don't trust that in the heat of the moment he wouldn't blurt it out.

My best friends 11 year old still believes too, he's also year 6.
I think if DS1 was in highschool I'd be more worried about him getting bullied so would be keen to find out and set the record straight.

He helped DS3 (3) write a letter to FC yesterday, DS3 has asked for a Mountain for Daddy a Diamond for Mummy and a Potato for himself.

One of dds friends (they are 9/10) has recently been told by her mum that FC isn't real. I felt really sorry for her. Even before this I knew that dd suspected it wasn't real, but as I did at that age (and still do now with my parents) she was going on with it all, because it's fun. We had an elf last year and she knew that wasn't real, but went along with it all the same, maybe for the sake of her siblings who are younger.

I don't think you need to know if they believe or not. If they believe great, if they don't believe, I'd still go along with the pretence for another couple of years anyway. it won't harm anyone. I definitely wouldn't tell dc if I thought they would spoil it for another child by passing on the wisdom, That's not fair on the younger one at all.