A bit of background, I am French but have lived in England with dh (who is Scottish) for over 20 years. We usually do Christmas at my parents in france, although when dc were younger we did sometimes (maybe 1/3 of the time?) stay in England for Christmas.
We haven't had Christmas in Scotland since dc were toddlers (now late teens) because my lovely mil died and fil remarried a horrible woman. We have spent new years there but it was not a sucess (left alone with a frozen pizza while they went to a party).
I would like to see my parents this winter, as they are getting old and Christmas and summer is the only time we visit. Also they will otherwise spend Christmas alone 
dsis and her dc will be there for the runup to Christmas but not the day itself.
Ds wants to go to france for Christmas as "its more fun than just staying at home" and he wants to see his cousins.
Dd has left home. She is in theory not fussed about having Christmas at france or in England, but would like to see grandparents and as she can only get 5 days holiday over the Christmas period it wouldn't be possible to have Christmas in England AND see gps, so she said on balance she wants to have Christmas in france.
Dh DOESN'T want to go to france, wants to spend Christmas in England. So now it looks like everyone will have to stay in England as we can't really leave him on his own. He moans that we see my parents far too often (twice a year!) although I'm not stopping him visiting his dad, he just never goes even when he has the chance.
Alternatively me and ds could go before Christmas to see his cousins and gps but then my parents will still be alone on the day, and dd won't get to see them. My parents can't come here are they are very anxious about travel and it would involve at least a 4 hour drive to airport and then a flight.
Wwyd ?