Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Christmas

From present ideas to party food, find all your Christmas inspiration here.

Original poster

should DH buy nephew whose 22 a present ??

10 replies

Steppy1 · 07/12/2006 13:32

As usual I've bought the younger nieces and nephews presents but I think that now DH's nephew is a "man" we shouldn't buy him a present. He's working, still lives at home so probably has more disposable income than us tbh AND they're not close....

...or am I setting us up for a family fall out ???

OP posts:
GoldFrankincenseandmerlin · 07/12/2006 13:37

No - we had this discussion too as DH has 10 nephews and nieces, The older ones that are out working don't get anything.

KTreePee · 07/12/2006 16:20

Depends on how close they are reallly... I still get a present from one aunt (although since she nows gets presents for my children too it's just a small token) but I asked my mum to have a word with her sisters when they were still getting me something when I was in my 20s because I felt it was unecessary.

LittleSarah · 07/12/2006 16:21

Not unless nephew buys dh one, he is old enough after all, and giving to all the nephews and nieces at Christmas is a childhood thing IMO. I don't get nowt from my aunts and uncles who stopped when we were 16/18!

themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 07/12/2006 16:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LittleSarah · 07/12/2006 16:27

Ah, see, my aunties and uncles don't love me.

Still think at that age they are old enough to reciprocate and show they love you!

themulledSNOWMANneredjanitor · 07/12/2006 16:39

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Katherine · 07/12/2006 17:51

I think if you are close then fair enough but I don't think you should feel obliged due to a family connection. I had similar issue. My nephew is now over 18 and working. It seemed a bit insulting to keep sending him a voucher and its not as if we have any other contact. As DH pointed out he probably earns more than me. But I wasn't sure what to do about his sister who is younger as their mum (ex-SIL) still sends my kids gifts. Then I worked out she had left school too so decided I could stop with an easy conscience. Presents should be about love and "relationships" not about being related!

Original poster
Steppy1 · 07/12/2006 17:59

the only reciprocation of any relationship between DH and his nephew...is that the little shite knicked some of DH's very expensive batteries from DH's studio during our Ds christening(nice!!!!)

I'm afraid that's stuck with me........

OP posts:
maycontainstress · 08/12/2006 11:20

Oh definitely not. You have to stop somewhere, adult relatives of this age simply get a card.

ellceeell · 08/12/2006 11:54

In our family we give a larger than usual present for 18th birthdays and then stop all pressies, Christmas as well.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page