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Can I see your Christmas 'to do' list please? Nearly 50 years old and sick of being crappy and disorganised.

65 replies

minifingerz · 22/10/2015 08:41

An old dog CAN learn new tricks!

Every year DH and I are wrapping and shopping on Christmas eve at 12.30am and the house is a shit heap on Christmas day. I'll spend the day tidying up, losing things, and feeling annoyed with myself.

So, starting now, what sort of things (and in what sort of order) should I be doing to get ahead of myself?

I think we're hosting on Christmas day for family. It's our turn and I like doing it (despite the chaos). Will go out Christmas eve for a meal or to my mums, (but will have to bring the food if I go to my mum's - I'm thinking delicious, non-cooked stuff). 3 dc's, all with more stuff than they need and very greedy. DH impossible to buy for as he is fussy and has everything.

OP posts:
desperatelyseekingamovingdate · 23/10/2015 16:10

I like the idea of simplifying things - my smum who we usually spent xmas with martyrs herself in the name of giving us all a good xmas and we are all very grateful but its slightly guilt inducing when you arent allowed to lift a finger or help an obviously harried woman.

So i intend to make it as easy on myself as poss so i can be enjoying xmas with the kids and assembled family.

I like the idea of letting go of perfection- its unachievable anyway.

The main message of the thread seems to be start early with prep and finish early so you can enjoy the 3 days. Also the earlier you start the less pressure you give yourself.

Treats · 23/10/2015 16:11

Don't buy too many presents. I'm always amazed at the numbers of people that some MNers seem to buy for. Just buy for your children and DH/P and anyone whose house you will visit over Christmas or is coming to you on Christmas Day.

And your children really only need one gift. Especially if they will get gifts from other family members and/ or a stocking.

mrdaddypig · 23/10/2015 16:41

first thing i do is clear out old used toys sat their gathering dust they go to the local pre school/playgroups

usually start buying now
once i have all presents i give them to my mrs to wrap Grin

Dionysuss · 23/10/2015 19:41

I have all presents wrapped, labelled and sorted into heaps dependent on where they're going before the DC break up from school.

I have a bit of a clear out and declutter of existing toys in December, this also stops me buying things similar to what they already have.

I have a grocery shop already booked for Dec 23rd. This is just for usual food. If I try getting normal bits alongside Christmas dinner I end up forgetting stuff.( Traditionally dh and I get Christmas dinner food late night at tesco on the 23rd.) I also prebook a slot for the following week too.

Also on the 23rd we have a cleaning day. Everything is put away, carpets and windows are cleaned and the kitchen is cleaned to within an inch of its life.

Christmas Eve we go to the panto and have family over for a takeaway. No washing up or getting the kitchen messy. It also means I can prep food with a glass of wine in peace.

ILikeToClean · 23/10/2015 20:25

I start after the October half term break and aim to get it all done before the DCs break for Xmas. I have a master list on my PC that I regurgitate every year, has on it a to do list, a present list, a food shopping list, address labels for Xmas cards and a meal planner for the days around Xmas. I only started that part last year and found it really useful to make an extra meal every week and put in the freezer for the days around the holidays when I don't want to be cooking. I just tick as I go. I also have notes on what worked and what didn't to save over ordering food!

Make my own Xmas cake, Xmas pud, mince pies and stuffing and do all of that one Sunday and freeze etc. DDs help decorate the Xmas cake on 23rd.

Order most things online or do a late night shop if necessary, add Xmas food to the weekly shop and do the last minute shop on 22nd/23rd. The week before DCs break up I wrap the presents and do a thorough clean. Then one last blitz on 23rd.

Xmas Eve I get up early and prep all the Xmas dinner as much as I can so it just needs to go in the oven. I have a good food meal planning thing that I used when I hosted my first Xmas 15 years ago! I normally lay the table too.

Xmas Day is always really relaxed as the house is clean, the food is prepped to the stage that it just needs to go in the oven at various times. Only PILs to come over to us every year so really chilled. Boxing Day its just the 4 of us and we eat leftovers, I just get it all out and everyone helps themselves both at lunch and tea!

Oh and I don't do any of the decorations, that is DH's domain - he is really anal about the tree and none of us are allowed to help! That goes up first weekend in December and comes down New Year's Day.

Jackmelad · 23/10/2015 20:28

Back to OP. You need to work out what you want to buy everyone and where you are going to get them from. You can start buying things now, either from your lists or things you just see when out and about. Get your gift shopping done early.

You can then start wrapping earlier than Christmas Eve. I personally don't wrap until I have all of the gifts for that person. Or if you are doing stockings, have all of the stocking gifts.

Sort out what you are having for your menu and other things you will need such as foil, kitchen roll, washing powder etc and buy it as soon as you can. The same applies to non perishables. Pick these things up with when you do your normal shopping.

If you work full time or have little ones to care for utilise late night shopping, or use the Internet.

Delegate where you can.

I have little surges of activity between now and the beginning of December. That may be planing, making lists etc, Internet shopping and physically going to shops to make purchases. Too be honest it's no real effort, although I have had years of practice and am organised. Christmas is supposed to be enjoyable.

IDismyname · 23/10/2015 23:50

I have just gone through my diary and have crossed off at least one day a week between now and Christmas, so that I can focus on Christmas stuff on those days.
Otherwise, stuff crops up and I end up in a blind panic not having enough time.
I'm liking some of the other ideas...

TwoNoisyBoys · 24/10/2015 08:05

Marking my place to read later! Smile

ohtheholidays · 24/10/2015 08:55

Iliketoclean I'm like your husband when it comes to the tree,I'm positive it's because of all the arguments I witnessed between my poor parents when I was little,Christmas seemed to make them so stressed and bought the worst out in them.I wish I wasn't so anal over it though,it's most probably my way off stopping any arguments starting.

ILikeToClean · 24/10/2015 17:02

ohtheholidays that's why we go out for the day and leave him to it, so no arguments! We come back and it's all looking lovely and Christmassy and DH is all happy and proud! It really does look like a posh department store tree and there's no way I could make it look as good, plus one less thing for me to do!

BiddyPop · 28/10/2015 13:51

Woolyback'swife, thank you!!

I was awol recently but had spotted this thread and planned to post.

I started out on the Flylady Cruise quite a few years ago, but moved to Organised Christmas maybe 10 years ago. The Holiday Grand Plan (or its sister, the Houseworks Holiday Plan) are both well underway now - they are both 14 week plans that start the last week in August and work on the premise of tidying one room or function of the house per week and doing some Christmas prep every week as well.

The Christmas Countdown is a 6 week plan from the same Organised Christmas website, starting at Halloween I think. Does the same thing but slightly less detailed on the house side.

Around now, I am trying to:

Organise my cards lists and check addresses that have changed.

Buy the cards as soon as I see them in shops (I usually buy charity ones - either RNLI or cancer or supporting children's hospital).

I tend to start writing cards anytime from now on. If I have any flights/trains to take (especially work trips), I will take a bundle and do them while "stuck" in transit. Or else do 5-10 per night while watching tv.

Add a few regular meals to the freezer for the manic time that is December, so we will still be reasonably well fed as a family even when rushing about. Lasagne, curries, chilli, spag bol sauce etc. And some chicken breasts already diced up to throw into a hot pan from a bag and chuck in a decent jar of sauce.

Add a few festive treats to the freezer for Christmas itself. So a batch of mince pie pastry (I got as far as making the mincemeat so far....it may end up being shop pastry!). I always have a log of cookie dough in there too in December, as DD likes to make cookies on Christmas Eve for Santa and I don't always have the time/energy to bake from scratch that day, so slice'n'bake works well for me then and when unexpected visitors turn up. I usually do it by making cookies a few times over the autumn, but only baking half or less of each batch and freezing the rest, some of which gets used up over the autumn but I do try to keep some.

Presents:
Make a list of everyone who needs one. Put down ideas of things they like, or specific things they've mentioned wanting etc. Still loads of time for online shopping and there are loads of great sales this autumn too. It's also good to look now if you have anything particular in mind, or want anything personalized, or that takes a while to arrive etc.

Put your purchases on the list, or just tick off those bought for (or made). depending on who will see it.

Find a hidey-hole to put your purchases. Some people swear by wrapping now - I prefer to do that on the nights in December when DH is on various nights out with Christmas music going and a glass of wine in hand. But I am organizing paper, ribbons, tags and tape now, and making sure I have a decent scissors too for the job.

Christmas stamps are out now (in Ireland at least) so I am checking postage dates for cards and parcels, and getting the stamps while the special offer booklets are out (I buy a few for the free stamps as I send a lot, and other mail during the year too).

Think about outfits. How many parties will you attend, and need outfits for (and formality of those, can you wear the same thing to a few, will you have time for washing/dry cleaning in between, etc)? What do you wear Christmas Day, and do you need anything new for that? Or even, stocking up on stockings (ooh err missus!) and tights, foundation garments etc? And things like makeup, beauty regime items, etc - what needs replacing? Write a list.

I have already bought new PJs for DH and seen what I am getting for DD (bribery so we weren't buying until after she did what was needed - now I am free to buy). But I need to buy for me yet.

I have bought the Lush Santa bath bomb for DD - but need to buy some relaxing ones for me. (We do new PJs for everyone, and lush bathbombs for DD and I, for Christmas Eve night).

I also need to buy a new red pillar Christmas candle this year - so that is on my list.

I've stocked up on batteries when I saw a special offer a few weeks back - lots of AA and AAA, as well as a few spare C, D and 9V squares. I also got the small ones to replace the mantle clock when it slows (usually once a year, so I put it on my "autumn bits and bobs" list).

Bird seed goes on that list too.

And firewood, firelighters, and both regular matches (for fire lighting etc) and long matches (for lighting lots of candles). Nightlights, and any other candles, and essential oils etc.

I usually also check my winter supplies - warm clothing and thermals all still in good order, snowsocks for the car, salt for footpaths etc.

Early autumn tasks that I stick on my list are things like cleaning gutters and checking drains, checking smoke and carbon monoxide alarms, servicing the boiler, etc. Not necessarily Christmas but I tend to put them all on my Christmas planner list as seasonal jobs to remember.

Checking diaries as events come in. So the school fair dates, when do regular activities end or seasonal ones happen, are there things we want to see (a Santa trip, a particular carol concert or musical event, a gig, various work parties or meetings with different groups of friends)? I want to ensure that we are not totally swamped every day, but we all still have things to enjoy as well. And be able to book babysitters of DH and I will be out the same night (or even manage a datenight!)! And checking out dates for craft fairs etc for present buying opportunities.

I also book my hairdresser and beautician appointments about now. Those book out FAST! (My hairdresser, last week, had no Saturday mornings in December left, and 1 Sunday is also gone - Sundays are a special in December, not regularly given).

Things like food ordering are left for a few weeks yet in my house. I don't do a M&S/Sainsbury/Waitrose etc special as I generally cook from scratch for the turkey meal and just want a few pack of nibbly bits and DD's birthday cake at the last minute. I do order a turkey in late November from the butcher/supermarket most years. But if I was going to a "open packet, put in oven, ignore until cooked" dinner, I would order now.

Check drinks cabinets, what do you like to have in, are there particular things that certain people want (your family, or expected visitors, or places you will be visiting and bringing things to)? Again, write a list. Include plenty for non-drinkers. And start buying over the next few weeks (you'll often find you can pick up certain items on specials between now and early December).

Also write a list of items you'll want for the cupboards. What will you need for the Christmas meal and entertaining, and regular meals etc over Christmas. The next while can be great to restock by "shopping the specials". Also remember things like cleaning products and toilet rolls/tissues/kitchen towels.

Now is also a great time to put in some effort on yourself. I love the idea of "princessing" but work FT and have a challenging DD and home life. So just reminding myself to drink my water, take some fresh fruit and veg daily, use my moisturizer and remember to clean off makeup properly etc are helpful. If I get time to do a bit more, that's great. I always contemplate losing a few pounds, for about 5 minutes, but I DO try to at least eat healthily and not go overboard on the treats so not gaining too many instead.

Sorry this is so long, I've kinda started in the middle, and jumped all around as I wrote it. But I hope it helps a little.

A notebook really helps!!

BiddyPop · 28/10/2015 13:59

Oh, everyone has to help and gets jobs.

Make time for some peaceful time, yourself and as a family. I like Church on Christmas Day, and we light the candle on Christmas Eve and think about the year just gone together.

I do cook a turkey dinner - I peel and chop veg and potatoes on Christmas Eve, DH makes the stuffing, we throw the turkey giblets in to boil for gravy stock etc. We cook it together (set turkey up on timer just in case our visits run over time), no one is stuck slaving all day. And we also clean out and set the fire on Christmas Eve, ready to just strike a match on Christmas Day when we get in (from Church and some local visits). Ours is pretty simplified, but there are loads of parts that can be done ahead and frozen, or bought in ready to cook.

Ask everyone for present ideas, and ask them to be specific if they can (not THIS EXACT TOP - but "this is the style I like, or this brand is cool" or "a good book about WW1, I really want to know more about the advances in air combat" or perhaps an Amazon or similar wishlist of different ideas that you can choose from - NOT buying everything!). Or do a KK draw between you all, and set rules about keeping to a specific budget or needing to be homemade etc.

CamdenTownie · 28/10/2015 18:14

My dh has always insisted that every last present is purchased by 1st December, I used to thing he was a bit 'Bah Humbug' but since having children I also do this. Although most shopping is done online nowadays.

We get the tree up and house decorated on the 1st, and have a takeaway on Christmas Eve. Kids have named Santa Sacks so everything goes in those even before its wrapped so its easier to keep gifts separate. As the children get older the piles get smaller so it's getting easier to deal with and hide away.

We also only buy for few people other than the children and each other, we just buy for in laws and dh's two nephews.

milkmilklemonade12 · 28/10/2015 19:15

The DC need to be bought, delivered and wrapped up and in the loft by the week before Black Friday; you don't want to be getting caught up in any delivery fiascos. By DC I mean ALL DC you have to buy for; including family DC. If adult's gifts are late, they won't care if they get wine and chocolates instead probably wouldn't even notice.

Our trees and decorations are up by the last weekend in November young DC, and also because the weekends in December are ALWAYS busy. Seeing family, visiting, days out, wrapping, shopping, baking/cooking, making costumes for the nativity... Get it done.

Bottle of wine and a card to NDNs is a nice touch, and they're more likely to be understanding WRT taking in parcels or extra noise from DC.

Book Christmas activities and pay for them in Novemeber. Ice skating, theme park/theatre tickets are always popular. If you want to do it; don't miss out. Get in there now and ease your pockets for December! Others have mentioned hairdressers/beauty appointments and that does also need to be booked around now.

It sounds unbearably smug but if you can batch cook and freeze a job lot of meat sauce for bologneses/pasta, then after a nice day out you're no further away than a pan of boiling water or a ping in the microwave to a decent home cooked meal. Saves phoning for a take away for the umpteenth time that month and putting more strain on finances. £20 here and there adds up. That said though; keep an eye out for Dominos coupons (or the like) and keep them by the phone for when you just need them.

Online supermarket slots are out NOW. Chuck enough wine in the cart to fulfill the minimum order amount, and check out. You'll have until 24 hours before hand to alter the contents of the basket, and they don't charge you until that point either so it's no cost to you now.

Consider eating out for Christmas Day. Honestly, it's been a revelation. Check out local restaurants for prices. Expect to pay £60-£80 per head depending on location, but it's worth it.

BiddyPop · 29/10/2015 09:02

I missed lots of the chat about the detailed plans being OTT.

What I like about them is that you are given a detailed plan but fill in your own list each week to suit your household and personal circumstances. I could never manage the whole plan, but I take the bones of it, I get some deep cleaning done some weeks, it reminds me to do household maintenance stuff, includes things like changing over wardrobes to winter clothes and packing away summer, and remember to buy batteries ahead of time etc. And also get ready for Christmas so I can actually enjoy the couple of weeks immediately before Christmas when work is manic (year end stuff) and there are various social events to attend, but we've also built in family time and downtime so we do enjoy it. And the organizing is done so I only need to do some basic grocery shopping off my list (and hopefully over the internet if I've been properly organized).

The fact you fill in the organiser sheets yourself means you choose what to do, or not. And which weeks you have the chance to do a load, and which weeks are already mad busy so you are just doing the minimum.

MOST years, I get the bones of Christmas done, the important maintenance stuff (smoke alarms, boiler etc), and winterizing the wardrobes and house. MOST years I get the back garden tidied up (week 1 before school starts), deep clean the bathroom, get the kitchen done over midterm, and flip our mattress, but don't necessarily get the other rooms in any great detail. But I might get a few extra small jobs done in each because they are on a list to do quickly and tick off. And I will get rid of a couple of extra bags of clutter from having that on the list every week.

The whole idea is to take the details and adapt them to suit your own family, house and the time/energy available to you.

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