'Only buy for the kids', how would you work this?

[DextersMistress]

Had an agreement with sil for the last few years that we only buy presents for dc. This suits us both.

Our dc are 5&3, theirs are much older at 24, 18 and 15 and we've always bought for them all.

This year however, dn had a baby and I'm not sure what to do. We're short of money and buying for 4 would be expensive. On the one hand, I think dn is now one of the adults but on the other I couldn't buy her siblings without her.

Wwyd?

Assuming the one who has just had the baby is the 24 year old, I'm sure she will be mature enough to understand and would be happy for her gift to transfer to her baby.

I agree with Peso

Yes just buy niece's child, not niece as well.

Give her the same amount of money and let her choose.
Everybody might have the same idea of buying for baby and your poor niece have nothing.
This way it's up to her.

Yes, the 24 year old is one of the adults.

In my family the kids transferred to adults at 18yrs, like most things... 21yrs at the latest surely?!

In our family you get/got until you had your own kids and then you buy for their kids instead. No hard feelings , its expected

Maybe buy her something small to unwrap, large toblerone or something and buy the baby a gift with the rest of what you would have spent.

Or make some DIY vouchers up for her offering babysitting to be redeemed at a later time.

Yes, she's the 24 year old.

New she definitely won't end up with nothing, she has her DM and her family, bil (her df, sil is actually her sm) her dp and GP will all buy her gifts. I just will feel bad her siblings opening things from us and not her. I agree though it has to stop sometime.

Princess that's a good idea.

In our family you become one of the adults with no presents (we do send cards) at 21.

Or earlier if you fail to thank your kind aunt for a present at 19 or 20 [bitch aunt emoticon]

anna