FIL causes trouble at Christmas Concert

[threebob]

Ds was in a little mini concert today in his music class. Grandparents etc. were invited and ds chose a nice shirt to look smart.

Ds did his bit and sang and danced nicely. Some of the girls wore fairy costumes. It was lovely and would have melted the heart of a stone elephant.

Afterwards dh asked his dad if he'd enjoyed it. FIL said loudly "No, and if you come over here I'll tell you why".

I could hear what they were saying, but dh was remonstrating fairly strongly with him at one point. The conversation went on for a good 10 minutes, and then they went outside for another 5.

I kept my own council in the car as I didn't want to talk about it in front of ds. All dh will say is that his brother has had to go into hospital and his dad was stressed. He claims he never said anything about the concert - but why would dh argue over his brother being in hospital?

Everyone heard him say he hadn't enjoyed himself, including the teacher. Why couldn't he just smile politely and say "it was lovely" like any other person would have done.

Sorry threebob. I hope it didn't spoil the concert for DS.

He was so excited I don't think he would have picked up on it and FIL is always a bit of a misery anyway.

I was a bit for the teacher though.

oh dear - he is sounding worse and worse
how rude - glad it didn't seem to affect DS though (and the concert sounds fab)

Oh threebob ... what a killjoy
Poor teacher and kids and other parents.
Don't invite them next time ...

Given what you've said about his bible reading on the other threrad, perhaps it wasn't religious enough for him

How horrid for you all. I do think some people from that generation have forgotten what it's like to raise children because it's so long ago for them. Unforgiveable to be that rude. Doesn't deserve to be invited to stuff with ds but, from experience, know how families use emotional blackmail mercilessly to behave badly and get what they want.

You dont think he was staging a mini protest about you not wanting him to stay for more than 3 days when SIL comes over?

agree - he could have waited til later - sigh.

threebob what did you do in the end then about xmas? i missed the outcome. did you speak up front to them?

Yes, I remember posting on that thread. I really felt for you, there.

Christmas saga is still continuing - now would not seem like a good time. Unless he is rude to me - and then I will take the opportunity to be rude back.