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when they set their heart on something expensive and nasty!!

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LemonTart · 01/12/2006 20:04

DD1 has just told Santa that she wants a Barbie Genevieve dancing doll with bracelets (so expensive and I know her - she will love it for, ur, ten minutes, then never ever play with it just like all the other Barbie stuff), a Glitterator (NOT in my house ) and make up.
So....do I buy her what she has set her heart on (unmovingly for several weeks now and stubborn enough not to be swayed) and make her Christmas Day - or buy her stuff that I know she would enjoy for longer and are "better" toys?? I am torn between pleasing her - giving her the choice - and being sensible. I don?t want to waste money on crap with a short life, but hate to think of her disappointed face on Christmas day...Help!

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Mercy · 01/12/2006 20:06

How old is your dd?

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LemonTart · 01/12/2006 20:09

5 and a half, Mercy Old enough to know her own mind but not old enough to argue it through.

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paulaplumpbottom · 01/12/2006 20:12

I personally would get it for her. Picture her face on Christmas morning if she doesn't.

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LemonTart · 01/12/2006 20:14

I know paula. It is just going to be hard convincing DH. I think I might avoid the glitterator and get her the Barbie thing. already got her a clear lip gloss with sparkles in for her stocking so that will do for make up. She is so young don?t want too much make up already.

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paulaplumpbottom · 01/12/2006 20:18

What is DH's reasons for not wanting her to have it?

HuwEdwards · 01/12/2006 20:19

can you not do a bit of both? we have to give in to bright plastic crap, but we dilute it with art stuff (keeps DD1 busy for hours, but never says she wants it) or sporty outdoor stuff ditto last.

DD2 however wants bright plastic crap and actually does play with it....ho hum.

theposterformerlyknownasMammyM · 01/12/2006 20:20

Don't know about the other stuff but my dd said she wanted the dancing doll thing, I refuse to pay the rrp on it and searched for it and found it for £32.99 ish on amazon, I still didn't get it for her though as she has got some other things that she asked for and I don't personally think it hurts for them not to get EVERYTHING they asked for, although I think, even if you don't like it, you should get her something she asked for, if she only plays with it for 10 mins think how much you can sell it for on ebay

Soapythelistmaker · 01/12/2006 20:21

LemonTart - why not get her to make a present list, that Santa can choose from.

Our DC's always do one which has 10 items on it (not sure why) and Santa gets them a few very carefully chosen things off it

Mercy · 01/12/2006 20:24

Lemontart, same age as my dd then! 5 going on 15 (grrrrrr).

I think you've made the right decision. I tend to go for a compromise if I think her choice is inappropriate for her age. It#s hard at times though isn't it?!

nutcracker · 01/12/2006 20:39

I'd get it.

Dd1 has asked for a pixel chick house which I think are shite but she likes so she's getting it.

Dd2 has asked for the most ugly my little pony thing I have ever seen, but again it's what she has asked for so she will get it.

Thye get what they want here, as long as it's within the budget.

helsy · 01/12/2006 20:48

Snap, Nutcracker - Dd1 wants (and is getting) PixelChix, a teddy stuffing kit and Animal Hospital Horse Rescue Centre, all of which I think are vile, overpriced s**t. She will also get books, games and outdoor and craft stuff. I know this is partly in response to my own childhood when I was never allowed a toy that wasn't "educational" (guitar, encyclopaedia, microscope) and never got anything I asked for, but I don't really care. We can (just) afford it and I want her to be happy. The only condition is that she has to look after her stuff (she doesn't ).

Aimsmum · 01/12/2006 20:50

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fireflyxmasfairylights2 · 01/12/2006 20:50

I spent so many Christmasses miserable as my mum had always got me what she thought "best" I remember asking for an empty pencil case, it was tin, & pink with bubbles on it (see..I remember it and I am 28 now!!) But my mum thought it would be better to get me one with pencils & rubber & sharpener in it.. Oh don't get me wrong, I wasn't ungrateful, It's not in my nature to be, but I was sorely disappointed as I had been looking forward to taking it to school in January. (Not that I knew at that time that it was she who bought it!!) I also asked for a styling head one year, I was a little older, & by that time she had told me that santa delivers the gifts but she & dad had to pay him for them, she said it was a waste of money as I wouldn't look twice at it.. but got my sister one

Anyway, this year my dd is 5... she asked santa for a punchbag & a pair of boxing gloves... My dh told her they were mostly for boys..she was adamant, dh kept telling me she wasn't getting them... what he doesn't know is

I already have got them On the top shelf of the hotpress... I really wanted to get her something that she really wanted... & she has been insistent on this...

I'd get her one of the things LT, It'd be horrible for her to remember 20yrs later what she asked for and didn't get (like me!) And I don't mean in a way "Oh they must get everything they ask for" as I don't... I'm waffling now.. but hopefully you'll know what I mean!

foxinsocks · 01/12/2006 21:12

lol lemontart

my dd was 6 in August and has asked for a Glitterator and a genevieve barbie (thankfully, not the dancing one!). Those Glitterators really do look like plastic tat (and last week, were out of stock in a lot of places though I see they are back in now!).

HazelnutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 01/12/2006 22:10

I have done what Soapythelistmaker does with her DC
I get them (well I help write the letter) and they list things they would like to have. I also put in the letters and few "or" "maybe" That way DC know they will not get all they would like, but santa will see what he can do and they know they wont get all what they would like to have.

Santa also leaves little notes/cards saying maybe if they stay being good they might get some bits for their Birthdays. (I then get them in the sales if I know those bits are going to be much cheaper )

calpopscalum · 02/12/2006 14:04

oh get it for her. I've just had to buy that hideous Princess Alexa cos dd has been going on about it for months and it's the one things she has consistently asked for. the turning point came when she had been told off for doing something naughty and she stood crying in front of the tv when the P Alexa advert was on, then shouted up into the sky to Santa asking if she was stillogood enough to get princess Alexa!!! She was begging him! how could you not after that?!!! So yes I would buy it for her - NOT hte Glitterator though, I have quietly banned that much wanted thing from my home - it will never darken (or glitter) my doorstep!

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LemonTart · 03/12/2006 18:13

thank you all so much. I have ordered it from Amazon (thanks for that tip MammyM) def the cheapest place for Dance With Me Genevieve doll. I am not getting her the glitterator but if she gets some Chritmas money then she "might" be allowed to buy it for herself if still insisting..
I feel a lot better for getting it for her and think it is the right decision. You all helped
Feeling a lot more positive about Christmas now too. Only got a couple of things to get and feel that the money is just about stretching (I get pannicky every Nov!!)

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LIZS · 03/12/2006 18:20

Agree with getting at least one think that is "prized" (as long as within budget) but it doesn't have to be the most expensive, gimmicky crap. tbh it is almost worse to get something not quite right(ie. the regular doll not the dancing one) than nothing requested at all. Of that list dancing Princess Genevieve would be the least of evils imho (not that dd is getting one) !

paulaplumpbottom · 03/12/2006 18:21

I think that look on her face will make it worth it.

DimpledThighs · 03/12/2006 18:27

lemontart

I would have done the same. There are lots of other days when you get to learn that you don't always get what you want!

foxinsocks · 03/12/2006 18:27

My one concession was the Glitterator - most of the Xmas stuff she's getting is quite sensible (books, crafty stuff, a game) that I thought I'd let her have one abomination. It will no doubt work for about 5 minutes, not do what it says it does and then sprinkle sticky glitter all over the house but at least dd will be delighted on Xmas day!

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