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Christmas

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Can i make a request? (in a killjoy kind of way)

25 replies

MerlinsBeard · 01/12/2006 16:47

If you are posting about xmas pleeeeeease check if the question has already been posted, christmas is really hard for some people and decorations and amounts/cost of presents, outfits size of turkey etc is really far down some peoples lists.

I'm not pointing the finger at anyone nor am i meaning to be rude but alittle thought before you post please?

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 01/12/2006 16:56

Eh? What are you referring to?

fifi26 · 01/12/2006 17:01

Surely if people found it so difficult to discuss Christmas then they wouldn't choose to look under a topic entitled 'Christmas'

MadamePlatypus · 01/12/2006 17:05

Isn't a Christmas post as likely to appear in active convos whether it is a new or an old thread?

sunnysideup · 01/12/2006 17:18

I think many people on here have contributed in order to acknowledge that there are people who are in difficulties and for whom this time of year is difficult; I know I have been in that position in the past, life goes up and down and lucky for me I am not in that position at the moment and have been able to contribute to others who are struggling.

I for one, when I have been having problems, would not have felt it appropriate that other people felt they couldn't discuss whatever they pleased about christmas! I wouldn't want people to be so patronising to be honest!

AlgernonGetYerTubaOut · 01/12/2006 17:21

mom - I know what you mean but I don;t think it is a fair request really

Having said that I WILL scream if I see another NEW 'when do you put up decs up?' thread in active convos

AlgernonGetYerTubaOut · 01/12/2006 17:21

(am NDP, btw)

Mercy · 01/12/2006 17:23

Agree with (and relate to) your post Sunnysideup.

wannaBe1974 · 01/12/2006 17:32

Am sorry if you're having a hard time but I think you are being unreasonable.

Of course people do generally spare a thought for others, but one cannot go round on egg shells because it might upset someone else or because someone else might be having a hard time. If you don't like the christmas threads, then don't read them.

Your philosophy could be applied to so many situations on here, could people please refrane from posting birth announcements because there are some on here who may have had a stillbirth and don't want to be reminded, could we not post about ttc because there are some who have fertility issues and reading about how easy it is for some to fall pregnant may be upsetting for them, could people please not post about food because there are some who have alergies and reading about how much chocolate someone is eating may be upsetting to them as they are unable to do so. And so the list could go on.

Of course there are people on here that are having a hard time, and we all sympathise with those, and the christmas appeal has more than emphasised just how much people care on here, but it is not the responsibility of everyone else on here to not post certain things because of how it might affect someone. If it is offensive yes, but if it's merely because someone is having a difficult time, then that person should be able to avoid the threads that might cause upset.

AlgernonGetYerTubaOut · 01/12/2006 17:33

Wannabe, you are absolutely right.

sunnysideup · 01/12/2006 17:44

thank you mercy, and I agree as well wannabe. I think we should do people the courtesy of believing that those in difficulties don't want others to stop talking about things that make them happy. We should also extend them the courtesy of assuming that they are grown ups and will be responsible for their own emotional well-being, for example ignoring threads that focus on certain things they don't want to think about.

WonderCod · 01/12/2006 17:56

weirdthread

danceswithreindeer · 01/12/2006 17:59

I saw this post earlier and couldn't get my mushy brain to articulate what I wanted to say. Wannabe1974 you have done the job perfectly.

KBear · 01/12/2006 18:09

I think you're being unreasonable MOM. So now we can't get excited about Christmas because it might offend someone? Give me strength.

zippitippitoes · 01/12/2006 18:19

pondered this but think the same could be said to a much greater degree about the shops, TV, neighbours decorations, church leaflets etc

We celebrate Christmas in a big way with lots of anticipation, but there are things you can do that don't cost a great deal..decorations can be really cheap, and food can be fun without being more than normal budget too

I f the problem is that you don't have the energy for Christmas then there might be ways to address that too depending what the problem is?

batters · 01/12/2006 18:20

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ClementClarkeMoore · 01/12/2006 18:20

Let's just make a list of what's acceptable and what's not.

It seems it would be quite long judging by recent requests.

tiredemma · 01/12/2006 18:38

why would anyone be offended at an xmas post????

this site gets weirder and weirder by the day.

DeckTheHallsWithFRAUsOfHolly · 02/12/2006 02:40

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Bozza · 02/12/2006 07:37

I'm not sure but I get the feeling mom wasn't really concerned solely with the financial aspect. There can be a lot of emotional aspects to Christmas as well. Although I do agree really with wannabe, I guess it is worth bearing in mind at the same time.

TeeCee · 02/12/2006 08:24

Then by the same token can you make sure you never make reference to your child being able to walk please. It's very upsetting for thise of us with 5 year olds that can't.

Same goes with threads about what you child has asked for Xmas, very upsetting to those of us whose children are unaware that it is Xmas andthey have can ask for thing, if they could talk.

Not ging to happen is it, and I don't ever want it to either.

Anyway - I think you get my point and that of others on this thread.

Whatever your situation, I hope you manage to have a happy xmas.

TeeCee · 02/12/2006 08:25

There are more threads about people struggling finacially than threads about how much people are lavishing on presents and new outfits, or that's how it feels.

JARMgotstuckupthechimney · 02/12/2006 08:30

MOM - I understand your situation, I do, but reading that others are going to have a brill time actually HELPS me.

I like hearing that things havent got to be lavish to be good.

At the end of the day, Christmas is about celebrating with your nearest and dearest. Treasure your family over the festive period. I would be happy with beans on toast if it meant my mum could be here to share the day with us all.

mummydear · 02/12/2006 09:18

Whats happening to free speech ?

its a public forum , no censorship ( within reason) as to what we can and cannot discuss surely ? ( except when we are about to be sued )

There are alot of other subjects that are way down on peoples lists but you just dont read them .

lockets · 02/12/2006 09:24

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zippitippitoes · 02/12/2006 09:30

There is so much on mn it's impossible to remember or read everyone's problems as well as their joys, hope you can overcome any difficulties you are having and have some happiness soon.

xxx

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