My 6yo suddenly said out of the blue last night, "Mummy, do you remember that last year an elf came to our house? And Father Christmas sent him? And he was sooooooo naughty, he took all of my pants out of my drawer and put them on the Christmas tree" followed by uncontrollable giggles, and then "I hope Father Christmas sends him again this year". My 3yo then said 'yes, I do want him to put MY pants on the Christmas tree! Last time he did ride my train!"
I've no idea what they think, but they are clearly not worried or afraid of the elf! And no, I do not think 3 is too young, my youngest was not quite three last Christmas and loved every minute of the elf.
However, our elf wasn't used as a punishment or threat at all. He just did naughty things which the DC were not-so-secretly rather envious of. He ate all Mummy's chocolate once. The children were totally appalled and very worried I'd be so cross with the elf I'd send him home
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The weird thing is that I am absolutely sure that I admitted to DC1 last year that the elf may have been a prop and I would swear that one day she even helped me arrange the elf for her brother.... maybe it's true, believe and the magic continues! DC1 knows that the hundreds of Santas are simply dressed-up assistants, the real FC is way too busy - and the 'real magic' is the stuff you don't see, anyway. I'd be happy to let her in on the elf joke (again!).