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Is Mumsnet a charity?

33 replies

Rhubarb · 01/12/2006 14:40

Who gives a bollocks? I just got a lovely box of presents for my kids. We are not poor but we are not well off either, I don't mention my finances on Mumsnet much, only on that thread with Xenia! Yet I was nominated, still not sure why. I didn't know how to take the nomination at first, should I be offended that people think I've not got two pennies to rub together? Should I be flattered that people have thought me deserving? I decided to feel flattered but I politely refused, feeling that there were others who deserved gifts much more than me and my family.

Soapy however persuaded me to change my mind, stating that people were not nominated on the basis that they were poor, but because other Mumsnetters thought they had been through a tough time and needed a bit of Christmas cheer. So I accepted, but to ease my guilt I also nominated, in my mind, a more deserving Mumsnetter and I contributed a little something to the whole scheme.

This week has been tough for many reasons. This afternoon my neighbour came round with a box that she had taken in for me, in it was a little note from a Mumsnetter, a card for me and my family, separate cards for my children, clothes and presents. I was moved to tears that someone who did not know me, could be so thoughtful! Great care had been taken in packing my box for me.

What was a hard and horrible week has now been lifted and I'm feeling overwhelmed and shocked and touched. This is the greatest gift that all you givers have given - it's not the presents, as lovely as they are, it's the feeling that people out there do care, that there is a generosity of spirit that has been shone onto you. It's a very warm and fuzzy feeling!

I shall tell my children that someone they don't know, children they don't know, have given them these gifts because they wanted to do something nice and kind for Christmas. I hope my kids learn from them, I hope we all learn from them!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to Soapbox for organising such a scheme and all those givers. You have given so much more than presents and I hope your Christmasses are all the more special, in the knowledge that you have restored the message of Christmas and brought happiness in some homes.

And I don't care how cheesy all of this sounds, for once I'm dropping my "bah humbug" mask for a bit, you lot have shown me your humanity, it's only fair that you see mine.

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ChristmasCaroligula · 01/12/2006 14:44

Ah Rhuby you've brought tears to my eyes.

Happy Christmas.

ItsTheThoughtThatCounts · 01/12/2006 14:45

I could have written your post Rhubarb - thank you for saving me the trouble!

Thank you, Soapy, and thank you to the lovely MNers who nominated me (more than one, Soapy said! and ) and the incredible MNers who've sent me things - I love you all!

(Hunker x x x)

Rhubarb · 01/12/2006 14:55

I feel like Scrooge when he gets transformed! Ah well, no doubt my old miserable self will return when dd comes home from school!

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Furball · 01/12/2006 14:56

To me - this is what mumsnet is about, somone to be there for you when you need it, to help you get up again and brush off the dirt on your knees.

An amazing place with some amazing people!

LemonTart · 01/12/2006 14:58

Happy Christmas Rhubarb
Lovely post

Saturn74 · 01/12/2006 15:02

Great thread, Rhubarb!

Miaou · 01/12/2006 15:11

Oh that's fab Rhubarb - what a lovely, eloquent post.

MrMiaou said much the same thing on the main thread recently. He has transformed - totally - as the result of the incredible kindness of so many strangers. He has bought advent calendars for the kids and wants to know when we are going to put the tree up!!

I say again - and will continue to repeat - the kindness of mnetters (some who know me and some who don't) - is so overwhelming, and will make such a difference to us this Christmas. Thankyou from the bottom of my heart

santasdoingtheironing · 01/12/2006 15:15

I sent a parcel to someone and I can honestly say that I feel I got a huge amount out of sending it.
It has really made my Christmas so much more special.

noddyholder · 01/12/2006 15:18
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hatwoman · 01/12/2006 15:18

lovely rhubarb.

JARMgotstuckupthechimney · 01/12/2006 15:24

Hoorah for Rhubarb.

Hoorah for Soapbox.

Hoorah for the givers.

HOORAH FOR MUMSNET

You are all wonderful xxx

Soapythelistmaker · 01/12/2006 20:39

Rhubarb - just found this - what a lovely, lovely post

FLAMEinEckItsYuleAgain · 01/12/2006 20:47

I am another one who feels you could be writing those words for me...

My DH is convinced I have told everyone we are bankrupt and he has left me to feed the kids slugs alone - I have been convincing him that no, it is just that people care.

I was a self nominator, and although I felt very about it, I was worried sick about how I would find enough money to give my babies a decent amount to open on Christmas Day - the idea of a swap so I could get a few secondhand bits sounded perfect... then it has spiralled. I know that I was nominated by several different people (they told me worried I would be offended), and knowing that people cared enough about me to think to nominate has been so heartwarming.

I have a new found faith in humanity thanks to it.

Twiglett · 01/12/2006 20:50

for once I mean this sincerely - Well said, Rhubarb

lulumama · 01/12/2006 20:55

rhubarb............

FrannyandZooey · 01/12/2006 20:55
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Edmond · 01/12/2006 20:56

it has nothing to do with finances does it?
ahh just read that bit

batters · 01/12/2006 21:48

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reindeerkid · 01/12/2006 21:52

My sentiments exactly Rhubarb

Thanx Soapy

This has been a very emotional week so many caring lovely people its makes the tough times easier to bare

thankyou xx

MorePresentsforRhubarb · 01/12/2006 21:55

And I haven't even sent you my package yet Rhubarb! Likely to be sent Weds by Royal Mail.
The parcel you've had sounds really great . Like you say, a lot of people nominated receivers just because they felt they deserved a treat and some friendship and TLC by post!

HazelnutsRoastingOnAnOpenFire · 01/12/2006 21:57

Lovely thread and post Rhubarb.

I have found that just having MN for great for me. just reading threads I can get help without even asking for any. I try and hope I help others with what I post.

MNers really know how to pull the stops out when it comes to helping others out, no matter what it is that is going wrong.

I would like to give a big big thank soapy for what she has done. She has got us all under one roof this Christmas. I hope I have done my bit to help others with what I done.

This is what Christmas is all about.

Mercy · 01/12/2006 22:16

wow Rhubarb! I have to quote now from one of my fave poems/poetry

"What can I give him
Poor as I am?
If I were a shepherd
I would bring a lamb;
If I were a wise man
I would do my part;
Yet what I can I give him ?
Give my heart."

Posey · 01/12/2006 22:20

Lovely lovely post Rhubarb

Just sent a parcel off today. Hope it does to my recipient what your has done to you.

Well done everyone.

all4girlz · 01/12/2006 22:59

your post is lovely so well written and so true

I have my parcel to post next week - it has given me a nice xmassy buzz picking and wrapping etc and it is great to know that the presents and stuff are really appreciated and are making a difference to peoples' xmas

RhubarbsNominator · 01/12/2006 23:10

(Or at least one of them!)

I nominated you Rhuby.. not because I think you have ever come across as dirt sh*t poor (not that there's any shame in that) but because a few posts on a couple of threads made me think you and you family deserved a treat. I'm glad you were pleased in the end .. my intention was never to offend.

Fab post

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