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Anyone going to a hotel

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dustarr73 · 30/09/2015 15:43

We are ,we got a great deal.So dp and i and our 3 younger kids are spending Christmas in a lovely hotel.I really cant wait.Everything handed up to you and no cleaning up.

Cant wait.

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AFewGoodWomen · 04/10/2015 01:25

Totally up to you OP but for me Xmas is about family and extended family.

Cannot imagine not being with my children on Xhristmas Day.

dustarr73 · 04/10/2015 01:41

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Isitchristmasyet4 · 04/10/2015 07:23

Aw i think its kind of sad that you're doing that... i imagine your older boys don't realise what they're agreeing too. If they didn't want to go you should've maybe compromised..But hey ho, each to their own. The Waterside is a lovely hotel.

AnnPerkins · 04/10/2015 07:33

It.sounds great OP. I'd be excited too.

When I was an older teenager I would go and spend Christmas at my boyfriends house. It was no big deal to me or my parents.

GloriaHotcakes · 04/10/2015 07:42

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FuzzyWizard · 04/10/2015 12:11

I don't think there's anything wrong with the older ones staying home if they want. I have a 16 year old exchange student this year. The programme she is on means she isn't allowed to go home at all this academic year, not even for Christmas or Easter holidays. I'm sure it wasn't an easy choice but one Christmas away from her parents will be fine. I'm usually big on family Christmases with my parents and siblings but fancied going away this year. I'm sure your older DC will enjoy a Christmas that is a bit different to usual for a change... I doubt they'll spend the whole day pining away for you.

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dustarr73 · 04/10/2015 16:20

They are not teens,they are adults who are capable of making up their own mind.

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AnnPerkins · 05/10/2015 09:31

Quite. I'm not sure why your plans are seen as so unusual, OP. I left home at 18 and had my own life. Apart from inviting me for dinner on either Christmas Day or Boxing Day if they were at home, I didn't feature in my parents' plans after that.

Snausage · 05/10/2015 10:45

DP and I will be staying in a hotel a three minute walk from my mum's on Christmas Eve night and Christmas Day night! Her house isn't big enough for all of us, but DS (who will be 15 months old at Christmas) will be staying with her for those nights. I am so excited! I will still have all the normal jobs (including cooking) but it is all so exciting. Last year my family all came to us but my brother is too ill to travel this year so we are all going to de-camp over there Smile

We will have our own little Christmas day on the 27th as well, I think... A roast dinner, a family walk, an evening watching Christmas TV and eating some Christmas cake and having a wee drink. I cannot wait!

scatterthenuns · 05/10/2015 10:53

I too need to gather everyone I love together on Christmas day.

I'd moved out by 18, and until I married DH, I looked forward to going home for Christmas with my parents and siblings all autumn. Even when then-BF (DH) and I were living together, we'd go to our respective families for Christmas day.

Christmas by yourself is true misery.

GobbolinoCat · 05/10/2015 12:59

dust sounds great, of course they are of an age where they may want to do something different for xmas Confused by now thry could be married with their own dc couldn't they!

GobbolinoCat · 05/10/2015 13:00

scatter due to family dynamics I spent a few alone and actually it was nice! A day when you can truly indulge yourself without guilt, slob, watch telly, chat on phone etc, it was actually quite nice"!

very different if you really want to be with people and you cant of course.

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dustarr73 · 05/10/2015 13:04

GoblinoCat if the shoe was on the other foot and they wanted to go off and i started a thread i would be told to let them go.How is it any different if its the other way round.

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AnnPerkins · 05/10/2015 13:09

Just because parents want their whole family around them doesn't mean adult offspring have to oblige. They might not even be on their own, they might choose to spend it with other people than their families.

I hope this thread hasn't dented your excitement, OP. What you have planned sounds marvellous.

ChristmasZombie · 05/10/2015 13:15

Sounds lovely!
I want to go and do the Christmas week at Butlins one year!

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dustarr73 · 05/10/2015 13:16

No im still really looking forward to it.

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scarlets · 05/10/2015 17:16

I really can't imagine not spending the day with my DCs either, but I won't be sulking if as adults, they want to do their own thing, or if they end up being hospital doctors or firefighters (for example) and have to work. Kids grow up, and things evolve. Enjoy your trip OP!

sugar21 · 05/10/2015 17:22

Spare a thought for those that have to work and leave their dcs.

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dustarr73 · 05/10/2015 19:04

I think it would b eworse if i was one of them Mothers who wanted their grown up kids to be wiht them every holiday,no thoughts about what they want.

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Savagebeauty · 05/10/2015 19:10

Christmas by yourself is true misery
Not if its your choice. I've had quite a few and enjoyed it!!
All depends of what your family are like or indeed if you have one.

IgnoreMeEveryOtherReindeerDoes · 05/10/2015 19:21

Have a fab time OP I'm jealous

As for some of these replies

Some of us single parents do alternate Xmas with the other parent so don't spend Xmas morning/day with kids and it's not the end of the world

scatterthenuns · 05/10/2015 19:45

Very true Savage. An introvert would probably love it. I wouldn't, but horses for courses and all that.

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