Addressing Cards to Couples Query

[suedonim]

What do people write on the envelope when sending cards to couples who are not married or where they use different surnames? Do you write a mile-long line of names or is there an abbvt version which has passed me by?

And what do you put on cards to children when you don't actually know what surname they use?

TIA!

Initial and surname of each usually.

What I reeeeally hate is when people write Mr and Mrs D Roberts or something and share the initial and surname, bleurgh.

I have some friends who are not married and have a child and inside the card I write all the names but I just address the envelope to the partner that i have the strongest relationship with. does that make sense? So i tend to just address the envelopes to the ladies.

I put "Oh, fgs, just get married and share a surname will you...and family"

I do what Mckenzie does

i do what mckenzie does too as'xmas envelopes don't really have the space for lists of names, for a married family with kids i write 'The XXXX Family' as i remember my mom letting me be the one to open any xmas cards that came addressed that way as a kid and loving it!

in situations like this I am lazy and don't use surnames on the envelope - just write 'Andy and Jill, 15 Garden Terrace etc' on the envelope and 'To Andy, Jill, Jack and Rachel' inside.

HM

Mckenzie, I do that for some people but I'm agonising over my own son's card now, lol!!! He's getting married next year (not that I've seen any signs of preparation ) so it seems rude to ignore his fiancee on the envelope. Oh well, I'll just have to use extra ink, I guess, and write her name as well.

snort suedonim, dp's mom only writes his name on the card and they pretty much consider us married.... his dad refers to me as dil and dp's wife.

that said she's an odd possessive woman so maybe i should be reading more into that one

I put "surname-surname family" (as long as I know both the surnames of course. My nephew's partner has just had a baby and I don't know her surname so I think that card will go to first name-first name )

suedonim in that situation I'd get her a separate card- we always do that for FIL's fiancee, to show her she's valued, iyswim.

We get all sorts of variations and don't care

Though I know for a fact a number of my aunts feel a married woman should have her husband's name and take great delight in writing to with with DH's name every year

does this thread mean you lot are writing out your cards ALREADY?

Didn't ever bother me before I was married except when people put 'The Hisname - Mynames'.

I usually address mine to the person we know best and add '& family'. Or if we know them equally I put both names.

As for not knowing a child's surname... phone up & ask - then you'll know!

Fridayschild has said what I wanted to hear - '[I] dont care!' That means I can put whatever I want and no one will be offended.

Fortyplus, we live abroad with dodgy and expensive phone (and i-net) connex so phoning everyone isn't a viable option.

BTW my cards are written because I need to post them as soon as we get back to the UK on leave. It's going to be hectic enough at home without cards to do as well.

Glad you're sorted! Have you tried One-Tel? Don't know if you can get it abroad but from UK calls to Oz are 5p a min, USA 3p a min, Cyprus 12p a min. Or at least those were the prices last time I looked.

I hate Mr and Mrs David Smith, sorry but Mrs david smith???? I don't bloddy think so

For couples I do Miss Lemming and Mr Lumpy or families...Lemming/ Lumpy family.

We have our phone and BB from Onetel at home, Forty+, but we're currently living in Nigeria so don't have the choice available in the UK.

Even when I do get through it's a nightmare talking to my mum because she doesn't understand the time delay and most of the conversation consists of her shouting 'HELLO, ARE YOU THERE? CAN YOU HEAR ME?'