DH thinks I am scroogy [shock]

[Greensleeves]

I tentatively suggested that we might do the middle-class middle-aged thing and agree some "presents" between us and go and buy them, rather than buying each other all surprises (not all, just some, and a few surprises too). I'm not really being joyless, it's just that we need so many things for the house/garden/allotment, it seems a bit wild to spend so much money on luxuries for each other!

DH was disgusted, he said my suggestion represented "a serious loss of lust for life" and said "a present isn't a present if you know what the fucker is before you get it". I feel rather embarrassed now, I do of course much prefer the irresponsible spontaneous approach, but I was trying to be sensible

tell him he is comon

Why? He isn't!

If I want to hurt his feelings I tell him he smells and his beard is too scratchy to kiss. That usually hits the spot

" tentatively suggested that we might do the middle-class middle-aged thing"

Oh yes, there is that... I could tell him he is childish, I suppose. But I think he would just guffaw at me and say "so are you, you daft bitch"

I'm with your dh really.

Although if I don't get what I've been dropping MASSIVE hints about this year I shall be

But my birthday is just after Christmas and that must be a surprise.

And yes, I am common as muck...

I'm with your dh a present isn't something pre agreed its a surprise

I don't think buying surprises is common, HONESTLY.... I would have been a bit fed up if he had agreed with me, I was just trying to make an effort to be sensible, because we always blow so much cash on fripperies at Christmas. I didn't expect him to be so emphatic, I am quite pleased with him really

Sounds sensible to me, the agreed presents bit, not the calling him common bit!

I give DP a list of what I would like for Christmas and he chooses from that plus surprise presents. TBH I only like/want/need about 20% of the surprise stuff so would rather he just gets what I ask for

I like knowing what I'm getting in advance though, but that is more to do with my slight controlfreakyness and DP's crap present choosing skills

why not set a limit on what you can spend on surprises for each other? money is tight for us this year so we've done that. and none of it can be useful stuff we NEED!!!

Oooh! Emphatic! Love it...

Yes, he is getting more emphatic as he gets older, bless him

he has excellent present-choosing credential though, I am never disappointed