Can someone please explain to me why women send their partner's Christmas cards for them???? Eh??

[motherinferior]

And before anyone tells me "men don't do that sort of thing" can I just say that two of the women I've asked about this have female partners.

I can just about comprehend (in a distant sort of unsympathetic way) the argument that "we've been together a million and one years so his/her rellies are mine so I buy them the presents from both of us"...but Christmas cards to your partner's friends? One of DP's mates' wives sent a card to the Inferiority Complex, addressed and written by her and all, with just his signature, before I'd even met her (and believe me, writing out all our names takes a long time. She'd done it in her best handwriting, too, you could tell). Christmas cards are not exactly fundamental. I'm not sending any at all this year, I reckon.

Come to that, why buy presents on your partner's behalf, anyway?

hmm I wouldn't do one of his that JUST he signs

actually I MIGHT DO

but it would be because I was just making a point and being all possessive, because I'm his Second Wife and you know, that makes one very Insecure

so basically, I might do it because I'm crazy

So you'd write it and address it and all, just leaving a space for his gracious signature?

To people you'd never met?

hmmmmmmmm

no I probably wouldn't do that, even if I was feeling particularly psychotic

I love it when we get cards obviously written by the wife when we are friends with the partner/husband. Makes me see their relationship in a totally different way.

I would mi, but in our house writing out the Christmas cards tends to be viewed as another "job" in our busy lives, so its the kind of household task dh tries to pass on to me.

And I've got nicer writing.

No, refuse to do this and refuse to buy presents for his family even though from "us". I may make a suggestion as to what they might like but that's it.

dont like to receive christmas cards as they make the house look messy so tend not to send many and deff not to people dh works with
and if i did i would make him write them his sodding self

I think I might be guilty of this !

Simple fact is that if I left it to him it simply would not happen - same with b'day cards too - and he would quite frankly have no friends left !

He is useless - I am efficient - and I care ! So I do it - mind you I sign them too - from all of us, and actually I don't consider any of his "friends" to not be my friends too IYSWIM.

I don't do cards for DPs friends. Neither does he......

I buy the christmas cards and he writes the ones that go to his family.

I am ashamed to confess that I do buy presents for his family, mainly because I am good at it and he is absolutely appalling at choosing things - gets stressed and cross and it also takes him forever - unless he has an explicit instruction to get something specific (and I don't mean ' a grey jumper' but 'a v-necked grey wool jumper from xx shop in size xxx).

I do get him to do other horrid tasks for me in return for being allowed to do his shopping for him (with a few lattes thrown in - it's a win-win situation from my perspective).

Because women are usually responsible for social networking and family business.

Men opt out. This is why when their wives die or they get divorced, they immediately have to find a replacement otherwise they lose all their friends.

TMMJ, I am with you on this, is that a joke DMO, there are lovely ways to hang Christmas Cards on string etc

I have this with my mum who makes a big deal of sending Christmas cards to me, my 3 kids, my cat and my fish from her, my dad, her 2 dogs and 3 cats. Its a nightmare - honest. I don't really do cards but my mum thinks I'm the one thats seriously weird - lots of barbed comments as to why I didn't send her fecking cat a card!

I write most of our cards out, although he usually writes any for work (which means......they tend not to get them, lol).

I buy most of the presents, or rather I put the brainwork in and decide who's having what, drag him shopping once, perhaps go another once myself, and then send him out for anything we've missed. I ask him for ideas for both his and our side of the family. Sometimes he comes up with good ideas, sometimes..........

No big deal.

I'm afraid I do it, but I hate it and it p*sses me off. I think that men are lazy and quite happy to let women do things like this for them.

Countless times I have left presents, cards etc up to him, and he just doesn't bother. Then I get evil looks from his family and pointed comments along the lines of "Well surely you don't expect him to do it".

Mind you, once his mum also said to me (because he wasn't eating any lunch at work) "Well, I think you are going to have to make him sandwiches to take with him". ??

Ha - I work too - I'm not his bl**dy mother as well as that of the children!

I do always have cos if it was left to DH no one would have a pressie, card or phone call, I buy it all and ones for his family I ask if he wants to write in as well, normally he does for his mum/dad and that'as all.

ooo serious mis read of post - dh's family don't bovver with cards, much more relaxed, so I don't do his.

Sorry, not in gear this morning.

Gin anyone?

This happens at work (don't want to get into an argument about the insanity of sending cards to the person you sit opposite 37.5 hours per week, and some you can't stand)
I get cards from 'Margaret, Peter and the children'. Who the hell is Margaret?? Oh, yes, it must be Peter's missus, who I have never ever met, yet she sends me cards every year. And spookily she knows my husband's name and DD's name.

Probably because the DH is incompetent...

e.g. example in our house:

DH sends birthday card to little boy who is his godson, but family are also friends of our family (original link is that the wife is a friend of mine) BUT DH only signs it from himself (not me & kids too).
Result: I come home to a frantic message on the answerphone asking 'is everything alright? Have you & gameboy got divorced, where are thye kids living? '

Doh! And DH didn't even see the problem!!

I did but I did all our family admin, investments, tax returns. He did do 500 of my business Christmas cards one year - got good at writing my name on them as he was doing some work for me at the time.

I don't.

I have plenty of my own to write.
I do sometimes buy them for him (he likes ones from Oxfam and the shop is near us so I can get them easier than him) but after that, it's up to him.

It doesn't bother me in the slightest if he doesn't send them - not really my problem is it?!

Every year I spend about half a day writing Christmas cards and moaning about it. Every year DH says he will do it the next year. One year I said 'Oh you agreed to do this year's didn't you?' He said 'yeah no probs'.

Not one single one of our friends got a card that year.

The following year all those who thought they'd been snubbed by us didn't send us a card.

It messed the system up for about 5 years in all.