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Are we mean not buying our 5 month old a Xmas present??

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newmum36 · 11/11/2006 17:29

As my ds won't actually remember anything about Christmas (being just under 6 months) and will be getting lots of gifts from friends and family I'm inclined not to really buy him anything.....maybe we might add some money to his Child Trust Fund thingy instead. Is that mean? My dh thinks it is but I said next year will be completely different when he's 18 months old (and probably still won't remember but might need a few more things and will have lots of fun with the Christmas paper!!)...what are your views ?

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mammaofthree · 13/11/2006 09:39

No, I think that's sensible too, but there's no harm in getting some things to put away and bring out during the year. I did that when my DS was a baby. Also, my twins girls were six months old last Christmas, and we got them practical things like highchairs and new clothes that they were needing anyway, and little things like books. Their big brother, who was nearly three at the time gave them a push along trike each. I encouraged family to give them money for their savings accounts.

TinyGang · 13/11/2006 09:45

Well it's sensible not to I guess, but who wants to be sensible at Christmas?

All of mine were only 2 or 3 months at their first Christmas but I just couldn't have not given them a little present.

kittylette · 13/11/2006 09:50

my son on his first xmas was 13 days old, but he got loadssss (first child syndrome)

my 2nd will be roughly 6 months this xmas, and we wont be getting him masses, just a few bits and bobs

TheHighwayCod · 13/11/2006 09:51

pointelss imo
we gacve ours some money

ComeOVeneer · 13/11/2006 09:53

DH was 6 days old at christmas and he didn't get anything. I think you are abslutely right about what you plan. Believe me as the years go on your house gets so cluttered with toys etc save yourself a bit of space this year. DS won't have any memory and won't be effected at all.

fortyplus · 13/11/2006 10:09

What about a goat from Oxfam? Put the card in a box to unwrap. Then you have all the fun of unwrapping a present and joking with the others about the goat and lucky it's going to someone who needs it, not living with you!

fizzbuzz · 13/11/2006 10:41

Nope you are not mean, mine will be 5 months old at Xmas, and she is getting a nightlight which will help mummy and daddy not her. She will be more interested in paper and boxes which she can play with. Christmas costs a fortune as it is!

fuchsia0703 · 13/11/2006 11:35

I have always and still do give mine things they need - included this year will be dressing gowns, socks, slippers etc but they will still be wrapped up - with a baby - there is so much that you need over the year because they change so much and you could easily wrap some of that up. Look ahead to the summer when you will need some sort of push along toy and so on.

izzybiz · 13/11/2006 12:05

My new niece or nephew will be born on Friday!

So will only be a few weeks old at christmas, i will still buy something though!!
Probably just a keepsake gift though, babies 1st xmas and all!

Everhopeful · 13/11/2006 12:14

Hi - lol to those with more than one child. I have only dd and she was 9mo at 1st Xmas. I'd got her swimming lessons for new year and reckoned that was enough, she was buried in pressies from others, so would no way have noticed not getting from us. Now 4.5yo and still only MIGHT notice, I think. What happened to Santa? If they believe in Santa, do they register things from different people? I doubt it, I'm sure it must contradict. Didn't grow up with Santa (youngest of 8, you don't get much chance to), but can't believe how many pressies my dh's family will get for each of us - mine weren't that into it.

Love the plate idea though, will try that this year!

odbod · 13/11/2006 12:38

ds will be 7mo at xmas - he's getting a toy box, thought it was good excuse to get something nice that'll last whilst he's not bothered - love the 1st xmas bauble idea

lilymolly · 13/11/2006 12:59

have not read whole thread and prob repeating what a lot of people have already said.
DD will be 1 on 9th January, and we have bought her 3 toys, of small monetery value (mostly for our benefit!)
however we have asked for money from the grandparents to buy her a slide/swing set for the garden in the summer, which she will appreciate more in my opinion. I think it is madness to spend a fortune, dd wil be totally unaware of anything this year, but next year will be different. to be honest she will prob love the wrapping paper more than the pressies!!
You are not mean, just sensible. Enjoy x

Enid · 13/11/2006 13:01

hve suddenly realised dd3 will HAVE to have a stocking as Santa brings them and if she does not get one all kinds of questions will be asked

so in her stocking (she will be 7.5 months) she will have
a rubber duck
toothbrush and toothpaste
new top
buggy buddy book
bag of mini rusks
box of raisins
new cup
soft toy

WelshBoris · 13/11/2006 13:04

We seem to share the same Christmas ethos Enid and buy similar things

Are your oldest 2 excited?

Enid · 13/11/2006 13:14

yes very! and its dd1 bday 5 days before so she goes into a kind of adrenalin fuelled trance on dec 1st

WelshBoris · 13/11/2006 13:21

I'm the same, really cannot wait

fortyplus · 13/11/2006 13:24

WelshBoris will be buying something for the donkey!

latchy · 13/11/2006 13:48

For my dd first xmas we bought her a token gift (just to ease my conscience!!) and put money in her bank account as she got loads from other people. My second is due in 2 weeks and we've told everyone not to bother buying anything this year, just put money in an account. Sounds pretty boring but i think saving for their furture is better in the long run!!

misstimms · 13/11/2006 14:01

I have got my DD (5.5mths at christmas) her first dolly (who is really more of a comforter) and some buggy board books as DS ate all his. As for toys we've got them all already,so money for trust fund is a good idea but know my mum will want to buy gifts so will suggest clothes instead. Love the christmas plate idea,and DS has a 1st christmas bubble so will DD. Lots of love and photos are always the way forward!

Enid · 13/11/2006 14:14

I'd be if I was asked to put money in an account for a baby yes yes I know it is sensible but it is so...(struggles for right word)

LadyG · 13/11/2006 15:55

My little one was 4 months and we had a stocking filled with rattles soft toys teething rings etc some from us and some given by others-total cost about £30 and we did dress him up in a somewhat Christmassy red babygro (present) and take pics of him hugging (wrestling with?) his new bear surrounded by wrapping paper which we still treasure.

Up to you really -if you really want to then go for it-I know they won't remember a thing about it but you could say the same for most things in the first few years

missseagull · 13/11/2006 19:33

DS1 was 9 mths for his first xmas, we spent the money on the storage boxes etc that you need for all the other gifts that friends and family buy, is he scared? No!

PanicPants · 13/11/2006 19:36

We bought ds (who was 5 months) a door bouncer and clothes he needed!

Piluncha · 13/11/2006 20:09

Last Christmas my DD was 6 months - we waited until after Christmas to buy her a present from us so we could see what she was given. We have loads of pics of her unrapping presents (clothes & books mainly) from my family and IL. Afterwards we got her a stacking ring which she still plays with a lot. This year she'll be 18 months so we'll get her some farm animals to top the farm she had for her bday, crafty paints & things and a book. All things that I know she'll love and play with for a long time. Don't know what will put in the stocking! Any ideas???

pointydog · 13/11/2006 20:20

Might be repeating someone here but my only comment would be that when the dds got bigger they wanted to know what santa had brought them on their first Christmas. Do you feel strongly about the magic of Santa? A lot of people do, you know.

We got a nursery rhyme book for dd1's first Christmas and a rattle for dd2's first Christmas. Covered the Santa base.

However you could lie. Certainly not at all mean.