DH wants a PS4 for Christmas. WWYD?

[DeckTheHallsWithBartimaeus]

DH has no idea what he wants for Christmas except a PS4. He got the idea because I suggested a handheld game like a DS.

I could afford it (though it's a bit more than I wanted to spend on him as I've already got a couple of other presents for him) but I'm not keen because :

1. We have 2 DC (aged 3 and 1) so he could only play it after they're in bed otherwise they'll be glued to the screen and they watch enough TV as it is

2. I'm afraid he'd be up playing on it late at night, so knackered the next day. We are both sleep deprived atm, me more than him because I'm currently getting up an average of 8-12 times a night with the 2 DC and I rely on giving them to DH from 5am so I can get a bit of sleep and also him looking after them at the weekend so I can nap.

I'll be so pissed off if he plays instead of sleeping and then we'll both be tired and grumpy. But as the only time he can play is after 9pmish he will be losing sleep (I'm usually asleep by 9.30 and he's currently asleep by 11pm - thats how sleep deprived we are!)

On the other hand, I do love him dearly and although I've suggested many other presents there's nothing he particularly wants or needs except a suit which we've both agreed isn't very Christmassy!

So, do I buy it for him? It would make a fantastic surprise as I've refused point blank up until now!

To be honest, the best present which he would love would be a weekend away with me without the DC. But only my parents could have the DC and it's just not practical yet (but is planned for this summer)

Also so as not to drip-feed, DH already has a games computer (not sure which one) and in 8 YEARS together he has never played it. He only plays computer games with his friend a couple of times a year. And a few games on his iphone.

But he's a grown man!!!!

Why do there have to be negotiations and compromises about what gift he gets for Christmas? He has said what he'd like. He's had a computer for 8 years and not turned into some gaming monster who has withdrawn from society. If he's responsible enough to be left in charge of small children, surely he can be responsible enough to manage his own free time and how he spends it, without being micromanaged, and assumed to fall into some sort of delinquency when faced with a games console, unless there is some sage intervention on the part of his wife.

It's a while since I've seen such an insulting attitude towards a man. If a man dared to suggest such compromises or conditions placed on a gift for his wife, plenty here would be up in arms about his neanderthal, stereotypical ways.

He doesn't sound like he's that bothered, just trying to think of something that you can get him. I'm not a fan of "I couldn't think of anything else" presents. I'd buy him the suit.