Well, that's really fucked Christmas!

[NoLongerTheSeasonToBeJolly]

No, it's not the lack of Monty and Mabel, (though that's annoying) or Yodel delays.

DH received a cancer diagnosis this week. We know he's going to need surgery but don't know if he needs radiotherapy or chemotherapy yet, we have to wait until he sees the oncologist.

I know cancer appointments are usually very quick but Christmas is bound to slow things down isn't it, I expect several clinics will be cancelled.

We're not telling the DCs until we have some more information which will be after Christmas.

How am I going to keep happy for them? I just want to cry.

Oh gosh, hoping everything is dealt with promptly

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. You will be in my thoughts and I hope you get positive news on Monday. I hope you have the best Christmas you can given the circumstances and that you can find comfort and strength in your family.

Oh bless you. This really puts everything into perspective doesn't it.

I hope you manage to have a lovely Christmas, and that whatever form of cancer your DH has is early and easily treatable and that by this time next year it will all be behind you.

Im so sorry. I hope you can manage to have a good Christmas in spite of this.

What type of cancer is it? There might be some MN who have experience of it and can help x

Nolongertheseasontobe..... Thank you, I hope Monday goes well, and your husband has positive news of the way forward. It is slightly easier when there's a plan xx

I'm so sorry. DH had cancer this year, thankfully v minor and all ok now, I hope your husband is sorted very soon. We told DC straight away (they are both junior school age) because it is too hard to keep such a big thing a secret and they'd have known we were hiding something. Worrying about telling them was horrible but a relief to get it out there, and it was ok to talk about.

Sorry you're having a rough time. Hope you get some info. soon.

It's really hard but try not to feel overwhelmed by it. You can't control the outcome so just keep going, one day at a time. That helped me to cope at times when I felt panicky whilst trying to keep cheery for our little boy.

My DH had cancer treatment last year that finished a couple of days before Xmas. He'd been very poorly the previous 2 Christmases (in hospital) but they finally diagnosed cancer and following a long course of treatment, he's recovered really well and now he's the healthiest he's been in several years.

Wishing your DH all the luck in the world for Monday.x

It went well today, the consultant was reassuring. DH is having surgery in two weeks.
We told the DCs today but have kept it all low key.

So pleased for you. Now try and relax and enjoy Christmas

I am so glad the news has been positive. I hope everything goes well with the surgery.

I'm glad the appointment was reassuring, hope all goes well in the New Year, am thinking about all of you. Look after yourself as well. My dad also got positive news today. Hopefully 2015 will be a better year for us x

Whoopee for reassuring news!

My dp also has cancer. If you want to talk feel free to pm me x

His admission letter arrived today, I've hidden it and will give it to him on Friday.

Good plan!

Have a great few days TheSeasonToBeJolly

So sorry to hear this :( I hope they can deal with it quickly and efficiently bad this time next year it will all be a dim dark memory for you all.

Do your best to park it and to make tomorrow a lovely family day x

So sorry you've had shitty news and had this hanging over you over Christmas. I hope it feels a tiny bit better having the next step in place. Bless you for hiding the letter :).

Wishing you and your dh all the best.

I'm guessing the surgery is around now - just wanted to wish you lots of luck.xx

It was yesterday, thanks for remembering sunnyday , it all went well.
They'll see us after they've discussed DH's histopathology results at their next MDT meeting.
Fingers crossed!