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Christmas day schedule???

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MadameJ · 19/10/2014 07:56

So I'm hosting Christmas lunch this year and had planned to do lunch for about 1 as that fits in with my young dc. However sil has said this time doesn't suit her dd as she usually eats at 12 and naps at 1. I think as I'm hosting I should be able to say when lunch is and serving at 12 will just put me under more pressure. Dh thinks I should change plans to suit sil and dn.
Whats people's thoughts on this as I can't work out if I'm just being stubborn or if I have a genuine point Hmm

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MadameJ · 19/10/2014 11:29

I originally suggested this but they are having Christmas tea elsewhere shame they didn't want to stay there all day

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BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 19/10/2014 11:35

I Don't think I could eat a full christmas lunch at 12, I'd be too full of all the chocolate, shortbread, biscuits, mince pies, etc.

Maybe some picky finger foods/canapés at 12 for the little one then christmas dinner when you're ready.

guthriegirl · 19/10/2014 11:52

Guests arriving at half 3 here. Starters at 4. Dinner towards 5. Hosting for the first time but this has been the schedule in my family for years. When I was growing up dinner was after the Queen's speech.

VainVulva · 19/10/2014 13:34

Tbh I would not even enter into a discussion with her as to what, when and how you will be doing things in YOUR OWN HOME.

She has some bloody cheek. Do not discuss it with her any further, do things how you wish. She sounds like a cheeky mare!

clam · 19/10/2014 13:52

Who on EARTH wants to eat a full Christmas lunch at 12 o'clock, ffs?
You'd be needing to put the turkey on at the crack of dawn!

Why not have snacks at twelve, and the main meal mid-afternoon once the kids are all up and full of beans again?

Your house, your rules.

jelliebelly · 19/10/2014 13:57

Your house your rules...

Oldraver · 19/10/2014 15:45

3pigs we have Christmas dinner at our normal time so anywhere around 5/6. Ipm would be way too early

FishWithABicycle · 19/10/2014 17:50

Well sorry if she's not even doing the courtesy of spending the whole day in one place she can fuck right off with dictating how you structure your day. You serve your meals as and when suits those of you who are staying put, and do not alter it by so much as 5 minutes for her convenience. If she wants to feed her kid at 12 she can have free use of your microwave (and should bring something appropriate).

Broken record of "sorry that just won't work for the rest of us". She does not get to make you have your lunch far too early just so that she can bog off elsewhere by 3.

Tyranasaurus · 19/10/2014 19:35

Your SIL is an arse, but seriously if it were socially acceptable I'd be gobbling my lunch up at 11am

eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 19/10/2014 20:13

Once ds now 4 was weaning n napping we had brunch at 11.30 he could then nap as normal 12-2ish n main Xmas dinner was 4-4.30 which fitted in with his dinner time.

We do something similar now n have starter around 3ish to space the eating out.

This yr we will have a 5wk old too so will go with whatever happens

blacktreaclecat · 19/10/2014 20:57

Last year we did starters at 12 so DS normal lunch time. He went down for his nap and we had fizz and opened a few presents. Got him up at 3 and had the main at 3.30.
It worked well because we didn't get too full

SoonToBeSix · 19/10/2014 20:58

12 is too early but so is 1. Why not eat at 2.30 after nap time. Just give little ones a small snack at 12.

squiggleirl · 20/10/2014 00:33

Christmas dinner at 12?????

I have 3 dcs and they would have been in creche at that age (youngest is 2, so still is). Anyway, in creche, they ate dinner at 12 every day. Never ever ever have we had Christmas dinner at 12. The world did not stop turning. It was all okay.

We would usually have starters at 1.30, main course at about 3 and dessert whenever anyone could manage it. Any child who was awake was fed there and then. Any child who wasn't had a plate of food prepared, and they ate it when they woke up.

Kids can have all the routine in the world, but Christmas day it can all go out the window. The excitement about Santa can have them awake later at night, up earlier, wound up with excitement, freaking out with excitement. Anything and everything is possible, so going with the flow is easiest.

As for SILs expectations? She can expect all she wants, it doesn't mean you have to deliver.

Littlemousewithcloggson · 20/10/2014 01:20

Cant you invite her for boxing day instead?!

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MadameJ · 20/10/2014 06:50

Well after everyone's fabulous advice I have decided I'm serving nibbles at 12 (in place of a starter), dn can then nap if she wants and then main meal around 3/4. I have text sil and told her this is the plan, haven't heard back from her yet Hmm

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BBQsAreSooooOverrated · 20/10/2014 07:33

That sounds fair to me. Good luck with the sil.

ireallydontlikemonday · 20/10/2014 07:37

We aim for 3 and usually eat at 4, 12 is way too early. Give the kids a snack and let them have a nap and way when they're up?

MissLurkalot · 20/10/2014 08:04

Hurrah OP! x

MissLurkalot · 20/10/2014 08:06

Just to add, it sounds like SIL is trying to scrunch up your day to fit in her Christmas tea elsewhere.... dn's nap is a cover !

currieaddict · 20/10/2014 08:07

Good for you.

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MadameJ · 20/10/2014 08:35
Grin
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lisucbgiberiocnha · 20/10/2014 10:25

have xmas dinner when everyone wakes up so 3.30? What about having a late cooked breakfast about 10

Leeds2 · 20/10/2014 10:38

Your house, your rules. I cannot conceive of trying to alter the plans of someone good enough to cook my Christmas lunch!

FishWithABicycle · 20/10/2014 12:37

Sounds like a good plan. Do come back to us on boxing day and let us know whether you inadvertently unleashed the apocalypse or anything.

maddy68 · 20/10/2014 14:50

I would say we are having lunch at x time, I'm happy to give your child a starter or something earlier at 12. As no one else wants to eat that early. And just leave it at that

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